Achieve Balance ~ Achieve Prosperity

If you read my last blog post, you know that I’ve just moved with my husband and 3 year old son from San Francisco, CA to Austin, TX.  It was a move that we’d talked about for years, but it was hard to leave the beauty of the bay area and our amazing friends.  What was missing in our life there, however, was family.  Sure, we had friends so close they felt like family, but BOTH my husband and I have incredibly amazing relationships with our families and it was really hard not to be around them.

Basically, I am a person who strives to attain balance in all areas of my life.  I think true prosperity is not possible any other way.  I think it is an all-too common path for people to get so attached to attaining financial prosperity that everything else gets so out of whack that life is anything but the fulfillment they’d imagined.

Of course the financial element IS important, but there is SO much more to this wonderfully delicious world we live in, that to not engage and play full out is the greatest tragedy!

So how do we go about living a fulfilled, inspired and truly prosperous life?

As I said, I think it boils down to actively seeking, achieving and maintaining balance in all aspects of life.  Take a moment, and really consider how you are doing in each of the following areas:

1. Mental/ Personal Mastery ~ books, inspiration, confidence building, engaging in stimulating conversations

2. Physical Health ~ eating well, daily movement, challenging your body every day, intimacy, companionship

3. Family ~ strengthening, clarifying, enhancing

4. Friendship ~ developing, deepening, balancing

5. Community ~ A life well lived is a life dedicated to serving the greater good.  Community is about shifting from a mindset of “the community for myself” to “myself for the community”.  It’s about contribution ~ about giving without expectation ~ because you trust that what goes around comes around!

6. Recreation ~ hobbies, creativity, rest and relaxation, travel and other joyful pursuits, all with NO guilt!!!

7. Home Environment ~ keeping your home clean and clutter free, inviting and set up in a way that promotes serenity rather than stress.

8. Career ~ committing your life to Excellence, ever increasing accomplishment, skill & mastery, and continually raising the bar

9.  Spirituality ~ a strong spiritual practice, however that looks to you, has to be the foundation from which all of your actions stem from. Practice forgiveness, gratitude, obedience & benevolence.

10. Financial ~ the more value you offer, the greater will be your reward ~ it is important to keep in mind that health, relationships, spirituality all must come first to achieve true prosperity!

There’s a great tool to analyze how balanced you actually are in each of these areas, called the Balance Wheel, or Circle of Life. There are many variations, in fact I wrote a post about a year ago with a pared down version, called The Importance of Balance for Truly Radiant Health, and you can go there to read more about the power of this tool and the exact steps in the process.  For today’s post, I wanted to break it down into more focused categories so you can really see where the imbalances are and where to really focus your energy.

For me, the imbalance in my “family” spoke was so significant that the decision to move before I welcome baby #2 into our life in early July was crystal clear.  I know that to truly live life to the fullest, it requires making the big decisions and taking the big actions to bring life into ever-increasing balance.  This requires expanding beyond the reaches of your comfort zone each and every day, reaching past any perceived limits you think you may have, and committing to making daily, conscious choices to be, do and ultimately have everything you dream and deserve.  Because you DO deserve it all! 🙂

Please use the buttons at the top to share with your communities on the various social sites, and if you’d like, leave a comment below sharing what area you feel most out of balance in, and one thing you could do to take immediate action toward improving it.

Yours in Balance,

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51 Responses to “Achieve Balance ~ Achieve Prosperity”

  1. this is a good piece. you know what I love friendship and I believe in its power to change things. it is worthwhile to keep friends

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  2. Beth,

    Thanks for breaking down the Balance Wheel into 10 categories along with definitions. You’ve made it much easier to see and respond the these important areas of life.

    I’m going to use this list to determine the areas I need to address.

    Great post…thanks,
    Susan
    Susan Redmon´s last blog post ..How to Quickly and Easily Add a Privacy Policy Page to Your WP Blog

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  3. Hey Beth,

    Awesome article which illustrates the importance of attaining proper balance in ones life.

    Obtaining a perfect balance in all aspects of your life I believe is near impossible because there are always external factors which are involved.

    The only person that you have complete control over is yourself and it is the consistency of how you deal with change to achieve balance that will make all the difference.

    Thanks for the awesome post Beth.

    Your TSA friend,

    Kevin
    Kevin DeRoo´s last blog post ..The Blog and its Power in MLM!

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  4. Hi Beth

    What a wonderful article. Balance is something I constantly strive to achieve, and as I think you are saying, it’s a continual journey. I love the journey!
    Laura Morris
    Laura Morris´s last blog post ..Get Fired Up! Stop Looking For That Superstar and BE ONE!

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Laura, yes it is a continual (and beautiful!) journey, isn’t it? 🙂

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  5. Lovely post, Beth! I hope you’re getting settled and acquainted with Austin. The first few months is always challenging in a new environment but to me, my family is my home, so that could be anywhere if I’m with them :). Great list of 10 things to make sure your life is always in balance. Balance can be challenging for the busy bees :).

    Janette Stoll

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks so much, Janette! I m settling in, though still have much getting acquainted to do! I agree, family is the most grounding force, so being all together is truly the most amazing part of this all. And yes, I can relate to being a busy bee, which is all the more reason I think it’s important to be dedicated to the pursuit of balance. It makes the busy-ness fueling rather than draining. Thanks for visiting!

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  6. Hey Beth,

    I couldn’t agree with your point more that a prosperous life involves achieving and maintaining balance in your life.

    Thanks for the tip on using the Balance Wheel tool, I will check out the post you linked to and see if it helps.

    Thanks sharing your insights, and I wish you and your family luck with your move.
    Jason´s last blog post ..What You Must Know About Making Beats Online – You’re Wasting Your Time If You Don’t Know These Tips

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    bethallen Reply:

    Well I’m glad we’re in agreement, Jason! 🙂 Enjoy the balance wheel exercise, it’s very powerful. And thanks for the well wishes, and for stopping by.

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  7. Beth,
    Great post and so TRUE! We all need balance in your lives and it’s very challenging for most of us. It’s especially tough in those transitional times and sometimes we need to seek professional help to get us there. Balance and self-care are huge tools to help us and that’s a big part of what I teach new psychology interns. While we all want to be of service to others, if we don’t take care of ourselves, we can’t do that and it makes us poor role models for others.
    Thanks so much for sharing,
    Adam
    Dr. Adam Sheck´s last blog post ..Be A Selfish Lover!

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Adam. I fully agree that professional help can be extremely valuable during times of transition. You are absolutely right that unless we take care of ourselves first, our service to others will be greatly diminished. Thanks for all you contribute.

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  8. Hello there my friend; I’m so happy to here about your move to Texas and seeing you around your family. I lived in San Antonio, Tx. for almost 8 years and I absolutely loved it.

    Your list of these very important areas of life is accurate and very true my friend. Thanks for lining it out and giving a nice overall viewpoint of areas in life that we need to maintain balance in.

    Make today your best day ever my friend.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Joe~ I’ve heard San Antonio is a beautiful city, I’ll have to go explore sometime! I’m happy to hear you found the post valuable. I will definitely make each day the best ever, and you do the same of course! 🙂

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  9. Beth,
    I hope that you’re getting all settled in. Knowing you, I would say that’s a give! Your organization skills came in handy with getting all settled in. 🙂

    Looking over your list I see the area I will focus on more is recreation. I know it’s easy to blame it on the winter, yet there are still plenty of ways to get out, connect and enjoy myself. Time to get that back in balance.
    Val 😉
    Val Wilcox´s last blog post ..Attitude of Gratitude

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    bethallen Reply:

    Phew! I am settling well but fell really behind in the process! Slowly emerging again…:) Yes, I remember from living in WI that winter was a huge excuse, but there are always options! And the good news is that spring is right around the corner! Woo Hoo! 🙂

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  10. We definitely must dedicate ourselves to building our empires, however we do have to be flexible to schedule time with our family. If we are too rigid our business collapses and cooperation will go down the drain with our family in the long run.

    Lawrence Bergfeld
    Lawrence Bergfeld´s last blog post ..Get This MLM Truth To Your Head Or Go Work At Seven Eleven

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    bethallen Reply:

    Well said, Lawrence. Thank you. 🙂

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  11. Great Post! We all should work to achieve balance in life. I love personal development. It is fundamental to improve ourselves to be able to deliver even greater value to the people around us.

    Thanks for sharing!
    Tristan Azcona´s last blog post ..Don’t Patronize Me

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    bethallen Reply:

    Absolutely! I have dedicated so much of my life for the past 14 years to personal development, and have seen a direct correlation to the value I deliver. Thanks for stopping by, Tristan!

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  12. I always admire those who are willing to leave their comfort zone to achieve more. You seem to be doing just that. I wish for you that it will bring you the balance you are looking for.
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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks so much, Karin. Yes, I once heard that if we aren’t constantly pushing on the edges of our comfort zone, it will end up shrinking in around us until we can’t breathe. Yikes! So I keep dancing at the edges and beyond….:)

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  13. Hi Beth,

    Yes, I am seeing a lot of posts about balance lately. Must be a message!

    You certainly have a long list of areas to tidy up. At least I cleaned up my office last week.

    Thanks for reminding me!!
    John Gaydon´s last blog post ..Growing Your Business Through Webinars

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi John ~ I’ve had experiences like that….where I”m suddenly seeing lots of posts about a particular topic….and yes, it is usually a sign of some sort! 😉 Glad to hear you tackled your office space….I personally find that my work suffers when I let things pile up around me. Thanks for stopping by.

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  14. Beth,

    I enjoyed reading this post and the break down of ‘balance wheel’, we certainly need this in our lives.

    Personally, I know it would be hard for me to be far away from family. My wife is still getting used to it when her Mom moved from NJ to NC and her sister just moved from NJ to Kentucky.

    Glad to read that you are adjusting to the move.

    Tommy D.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hey Tommy~ Yes, we all could benefit from more balance, which is why I think it’s so important to consciously focus on it. Yes, being near family is the best. 🙂

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  15. Hi, Beth! I am also a Western Girl who has been transported to Texas — Houston! Quite the different lifestyle! But, I’ve found to love it’s difference (and sunshine!) There is so much of God’s beauty in every area in the world. He is beautiful.

    I’m looking forward to following your blog and on twitter. Have a wonderful day!

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    bethallen Reply:

    Sounds like you know exactly where I’m coming from then, T.K.! My father-in-law and 2 sisters-in-law live in Houston, so we will be visiting there more often now that we’re just a few hours drive away. Perhaps we’ll meet someday! 🙂 Thanks for visiting!

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  16. Moving with small children while expecting a baby can be a huge chore! Been there, done that, several times. Congrats on taking this big step into a new life!

    Thanks for a very helpful post, too. I like the way you’ve broken it down into doable and measureable bits.

    Willena Flewelling
    Willena Flewelling´s last blog post ..John Maxwell – What Personal Growth Means to Me

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    bethallen Reply:

    It was indeed quite a task, but we’re here and everything is great. I do not have the slightest hesitation about whether this was the right move for us, even though there have been some unexpected challenges. That’s all part of it! There have also been some unexpected blessings. 🙂 It’s ALL good! Sounds like you’ve been there, so I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. Thanks for visiting, Willena, I’m glad you found this post helpful.

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  17. Hi Beth,
    Just looking at the “family” part of the wheel. I think it’s powerful that you chose to move closer to your parents and other family. I often think about our forbearers. The colonists who came from Europe, leaving parents behind, essentially forever. Immigrants who have come from all over the world, leaving parents behind, often never to see them again, or at least very infrequently at best.

    Often I though of moving out of Massachusetts when I was younger (perhaps your age) but would not because of my parents about 2 hours drive away.

    Now I have two grown daughters living on the west coast (BC) – we do well if we see them once a year. I have a good friend who son will move from here to Hawaii – she regrets it, knowing that she will rarely see the grandchild.

    I reflect on all this. I I know that we all must make our choices, and they are not cut and dry or simple.
    Richard Goutal´s last blog post ..Brainstorming for Ideas Unstuck Your Business

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    bethallen Reply:

    It sounds like this post quite a bit of reflection with it for you, Richard. I agree that our choices are never cut and dry, and this one was definitely no exception. We gave up a lot, but are gaining a lot as well. For us, gaining family that we love so much is so worth the losses and the challenges we’ll now have to face in the transition. 🙂 Thanks for sharing your stories.

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  18. Hi Beth!

    I always admire people who’ve managed to transform themselves into being unstoppable and don’t let discomfort stop them.

    You’ve complied quite a holistic list of things to focus on for re-balancing.

    Bon Voyage!

    Yasser
    Yasser Khan´s last blog post ..Stop Blaming Others!

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    bethallen Reply:

    I have as well, Yasser ~ and while we haven’t had a chance to connect more than via blog comments, I feel that unstoppable spirit in you very strongly and would love to chat sometime! So let’s make that happen….:)

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  19. Hi Beth,

    Glad to read your side of story and of course it gives me such a good impression about you as a person 🙂 I love your thinking style 🙂

    Thank you for sharing the 10 tips with us here ! I always believe that we must have balance in everything. When we talk about work, many are good at giving us tips but when come to own family, they find that it’s hard to balance both. Again, it is very true that we also have to understand the level of commitment for a sole bread winner of the family. He/She may have lots of responsibilities and task to fulfil or complete. So, it is the responsibilities of the other family members to take part to make the family lives more fulfilling and prosper !

    Thank you, Beth for such a great post by you 🙂 I enjoy reading it and do not mind to come back and read again to remind me of certain things. We are all human beings and need some inspiration too 🙂

    Cheers
    Pearly
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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks so much, Pearly! I’m glad you enjoyed my post and found some inspiration here. Thanks for visiting and sharing your thoughts!

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  20. Hi Beth,

    Last time I was on your blog you were preparing for your move. Congratulations for getting through it, I know it’s a lot of work! And there was much to consider in the way of balance – family vs. your friends, leaving a place you love for a more stable future, etc.

    It all comes down to balance. Whether we are online marketers, or work in traditional jobs, we can only achieve true peace when our lives are in balance. I know I can lose sight of this, often times overworking myself in an effort to reach my business goals faster. I know this is not healthy, for me or for my family, and really need to revisit the issue. Thanks for the reality check….and I wish you and your growing family well in your new home 🙂

    Kathy
    Kathy Jodrey´s last blog post ..Success In Network Marketing – Mindset is NOT Everything!

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks so much, Kathy! I don’t think anyone is ever perfectly in balance ~ it’s just a practice to be conscious of and work towards. I appreciate the well wishes ~ while we are settling in to Austin, we’re not yet in our new home. But will be soon, and we’re SO exciting to be buying our first home! 🙂

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  21. I love this article. It seems so simple, but in our busy lives we soon forget some of the most important things that keep us grounded. You have hit them all here. I great guidline to help remember what we need to achieve happiness.
    Matt´s last blog post ..Social Oomph

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Matt, I’m glad you enjoyed the post. Isn’t it amazing how it is often the simplest of lessons that will serve us the most? 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!

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  22. Beth, I can definitely relate to your moving from SF to Texas. I made a similar move 4 years ago now from Lake Tahoe to Alabama – it was quite a change, probably the most extreme opposite we could have picked! Everyone thought we were crazy to leave California for Alabama. But we left in April of 2007 just before the housing crash and moved to Huntsville where tens of thousands of jobs were being created. Were we reluctant to move away? Yes. But it was about pushing out that wheel, lengthening the spokes, pushing ourselves out beyond our comfort zone. And because of that, rather than potentially retracting in due to the difficult economic conditions and related impact it could have had on our life, we have expanded and grown and flourished in opportunistic Alabama. Without taking (calculated) risks, we’ll never grow. Great post, thanks for sharing!
    Hans Schoff´s last blog post ..Creating Wealth – The Type Of Income You’re Making May Be Costing You The Most

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    bethallen Reply:

    Sounds like you know exactly where I’m at, Hans! 🙂 Definitely extreme opposites!!! And while I’m admittedly having quite a struggle adapting to these 90-100 degree days (especially at 8 months pregnant!), I’m already falling in love with Austin and reveling in the benefits of having family around. So worth it! We all make decisions that will either move us forward or hold us back in life, and it sounds like we both used sound judgement to make a call that would be best for our families. Thanks for sharing your story!

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  23. I think I miss the number 6. I desperately need a recreation right now. I always spend at least 12 hours in front computer every single day, even in the weekend. Great post that you have here. Thanks for the insight, Beth. Congrats for your big step.
    Andrew Walker´s last blog post ..Magic Cabin Coupon Code

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    bethallen Reply:

    Wow Andrew, 12 hours?! Yes, take some time for YOU….it is the only way to truly live a fulfilled life (in my opinion). 🙂 Thanks again!

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  24. Having a balance in your life will definitely make it prosperous. mental stability is very necessary to keep our mind fresh and to think different things, that will help us in our life. Prosperity truly depends on our mental stability.

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  25. Achieving balance in life is the most satisfying point of life. Without balance a life is lived unfulfilled.

    Besides its importance, it is quite difficult to actually attain a perfect balance between all the things happening around in your life. Establishing good relationships, earning money, taking the time to care for fitness, yet giving sufficient time to family is enough of a hard work.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes, it’s hard to be truly fulfilled without focusing time on each of these areas of life. That doesn’t mean we must focus on each area fully ALL the time ~ that would be impossible! Sometimes we need to tip the scale and put more energy in one area …. but if we ignore an area for too long, we end up struggling to fill a hole that could have been prevented had we been honoring the need to attend to each area consciously.

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  26. What a brilliant post. You should do a series! :)I did a sort of blogging for dummies over on one of the craft forums and I thought it was too simple for them, but the amount of emails I got asking questions just like what you addressed was unbelievable. As young people today we have grown up with computers, but it’s easy to forget that even people just a few years older have not! Really good post!

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  27. I am already extremely skinny as it is (sometimes to the point of seeing ribs)… I have an okay amount of muscle… yet i keep hearing all these people saying that in order to get abs i need to bring my body fat percentage down even more… ??? somehow this seems like it will just make me look underfed/malnourished/starved…

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  28. You’re right that we need to improve those dimensions, especially the spirituality part. When all of them are properly set/balanced, then our whole life becomes stable and meaningful.

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