Are You a Flicker or a Flame?

Isn’t it amazing when you meet someone and you just feel that you’re not only going to be great strategic partners but are kindred spirits?  Well that perfectly describes this gem of a woman, Kimber Britner, who I met a few weeks ago at the NAOEM Success Summit!

Kimber  is an author, speaker, life coach and CEO of Moxie Me Institute, who is described as a woman with big vision, who boldly ignites passion, activates purpose, and maximizes greatness in heart-led entrepreneurs and entrepreneur wannabes. As a success strategist and activator Kimber Britner is one of women’s greatest advocates.

Definitely a woman you want to know! 🙂 So today, I want to share a beautiful post she wrote about my very favorite topic….living our most passionate and joyous lives!

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We each carry a flame that we either feed or let die out, so when I find myself trudging through life as a whimpering gasping flicker, without a breeze fanning my embers and no wind beneath my wings, it’s time for deliberate measures. That’s when I make the heavenly 911 call for a little CPR that breaths life back into the dry places and leads me onto the path of joy and a passion filled heart.

I don’t know about you, but I want my heart to overflow with passion. I want to be someone who can’t contain themselves, but passionately runs out to share my joy where ever I go. Contrarily some of our lives become so routine and passionless, that we wearily go through the motions of our daily activities forgetting the power available and resident within us. Is your life a testimony of greatness, or a miserymony?

Joy is an important key to keep our flame alive. If we neglect to listen to the place of authentic joy within us we will wonder away from the path that leads to life. Whenever I’ve wondered off the joy filled path and I am seeking the road back I first:

  • Evaluate whether I’ve gotten caught up taking care of everyone else’s desires and leaving mine out in the dirt.
  • Secondly, I evaluate if I have given room in my life for my natural heart led, natural bent, and the things that intrinsically flow from my life that release joy.
  • Thirdly, I give myself a joy assignment. I sprinkle fun throughout my calendar; be it a walk in the park, an ice cream cone in February, a lunch with a windy friend, a much needed date with my husband, care for the needy, or smell-good-flowers on my table. These are just little things that stir my heart to joy and counter any stuffy pretensions that might be tripping me up.

Sometimes we need to stand back and get the big picture. Are we more productive, leading a life of excellence when we are depressed, oppressed, and squeezed into a tight rigid box, or when we are joy filled and bright-eyed? I don’t know about you, but my energy is boundless when my joy is released.

When we are truly on our path, joy won’t be an after thought; it will be what announces itself as we enter a room. So if you are wondering why your joy has disintegrated, check for telltale signs.

When was the last time you made a date with joy, prioritizing your schedule to allow for fun? Are you making room for the things that make your heart sing?

We bring a lot more to the world when our hearts are aflame and we are walking in joy! If you truly want to be happy, no one can stop you. So let me ask you, are you a flicker or a flame?

Are you investing in what causes your flame to ignite? How are you prioritizing your life? Have you centered your work around your passion?  To find out how you can live into your passion and actually leverage your passion as an entrepreneur, be sure to subscribe to Kimber’s Moxie Me Please Newsletter.  Then be on the lookout for her upcoming Teleseminar, 5 STEPS TO THRIVE: UNCORK YOUR PASSION, MAXIMIZE YOUR LIFE.

Contact Kimber for a strategy session at kimber@moxieme.com

So I hope you enjoyed Kimber’s writing as much as I did, and I look forward to hearing your comments below!  And be sure to connect with her, you will be glad you did!

With Passion & Joy,

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35 Responses to “Are You a Flicker or a Flame?”

  1. Beth this was awesome and I needed to see it.My flame has been barely flickering lately. I realized I need to change that after reading this post. I want to be full of joy at all times because I have been blessed.Thanks for reminding me here.
    Beverly Monical´s last blog post ..Are You Focusing Correctly

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    bethallen Reply:

    Well I’m so glad this post has reminded you of your blessings so you can re-ignite your flame and live that joy-filled life you desire! You deserve it, Beverly. Perhaps you can keep a candle next to your desk so you have that reminder to keep your flame lit….we all need reminders from time to time, and re-igniting. 🙂

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  2. Hey Beautiful,

    Thank you for sharing this post by Kimber and introducing me to her, she sounds so awesome. You know when I read this my flame inside of me ignited once more…I love being a passionate women with everything to live for, it is a wonderful feeling.

    Beth 🙂
    Beth Hewitt´s last blog post ..Finding the right MLM for you

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hey beautiful yourself! 🙂 I’m happy I was able to introduce Kimber to my readers as well, she really is awesome. And yes, even strong, passionate women like ourselves need to get the flames burning brighter every so often! Indeed, being passionate is a wonderful feeling. 🙂

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  3. Beth, I love this!

    When I’m investing in what keeps my flames burning – and getting higher – I have boundless energy.

    I remember many times of just flickering. No more of that for me any more.

    Thank you,
    Tricia.
    Tricia Karp´s last blog post ..Find your voice. Ask questions.

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    bethallen Reply:

    So true, Tricia! It’s important to remember those flickering times, so that we do whatever it takes to keep the flame burning bright.

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  4. Hey Beth, this was gorgeous! I agree with Tricia, I can certainly feel the difference when my flame is burning and when it’s flickering! When it’s burning I feel so alive and motivated and empowered, its amazing!
    thanks for sharing and introducing us to Kimber
    cheers
    Nat
    Nat´s last blog post ..Is My Strategy Really Broken Or Did I Break It On Purpose

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    bethallen Reply:

    You’re welcome, Nat! Yes, it is an amazing feeling, isn’t it? The difference is huge, which is why it’s so important to figure out what keeps our flame burning every day. 🙂

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  5. Hi Beth,
    I love this “Uncork your life” that says so much! Many of us are so “plugged-up” in our live…but it’s posts like yours that help others reach within themselves to turn their inner “light” on. Thank you …
    Lesly Federici´s last blog post ..Wheres Your Mummy

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    bethallen Reply:

    I love that too, Lesly. Really creates a great visual in my mind. 🙂 So glad you loved Kimber’s post as well!

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  6. Thanks for sharing this great article. No one wants to be a flicker. As Helen Keller said, “Life is a daring adventure or nothing.”

    We should all be living our dreams with passion and commitment. Unfortunately, that seems to be the exception nowadays.

    I want to make sure to keep this message in the forefront of my mind.
    Take care.
    Angela Arnold´s last blog post ..So- You Want to be Perfect …

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Angela ~ Yes, while it does seem to be the exception, there does seem to be a movement of discovering and living your passion as well. As we keep lighting more fires inside people, hopefully the concept will reach the masses. I know it’s not a fast process, but it has to start somewhere, so why not here? 🙂 Thanks for visiting!

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  7. I love this post Beth. It is so very important to be passionate about your life, your purpose. I tell all of our distributors if your not absolutely passionate about our business then get out now and find something you’re passionate about, life is too short.

    Michael
    Mr. Personal Development Michael Berry´s last blog post ..Bible Origination

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    bethallen Reply:

    Life is too short to not love what you’re doing….great advice to your team, Michael. It’s not fun for anyone involved to work with a person who doesn’t want to be there!

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  8. The first word that comes to mind is: WOW! We are focusing on the same niche, the post was so passionate and inspiring, and I relate to all of what you said! I feel ignited to get to know this wonderful person you just introduced!

    I don’t just flicker very often, but when I do, I appreciate my friends that kick me in the but and remind me of all I’ve accomplished, all I am blessed with, and to just get on with it!

    It’s a pleasure to meet inspiring women and this post is very powerful. Thank you!

    Deborah
    Deborah A. Ten Brink´s last blog post ..Water It’s not about lack it’s about availability

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    bethallen Reply:

    Great, Deborah! I think you felt that same connection last time you visited my blog….we should chat sometime as we’d clearly have a great connection! And yes, do connect with Kimber as well. And aren’t friends great at helping us reignite whenever we feel ourselves flickering? It’s always best to just get on with it! 🙂

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  9. Great post Beth. Thank you for sharing! I look forward to connecting with you, it has been quite the challenge but we will get it done.

    Thank you for your inspiration and knowledge.

    Jeff Jenson

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes, it has been a challenge, but we’ll get it sorted out one of these days. 🙂 Glad you stopped by, Jeff.

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  10. Sigh of relief. yet another kindred spirit who believes that we need to be ever-aware of our desires being a critical aspect of our development.

    If we are not finding fulfillment in our life, it’s usually because we have fallen into the trap of altruism.

    I think that’s probably just as destructive a state as selfishness – perhaps has different consequences, but still – equally destructive.

    Blessings!
    Paul Klaszus´s last blog post ..It’s The CEO’s Fault

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    bethallen Reply:

    Aaaaah. Yes, finding kindred spirits is always a joy. 🙂 Interesting thoughts….I don’t know that I agree that altruism is always destructive….sure it can be if the person is not grounded and fully conscious about what they’re doing, but all in all, it’s about doing good without expectation of anything in return, is it not? You’ve definitely got me thinking, Paul….

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  11. Hey Beth,

    Thanks for sharing this with us.
    Flicker or Flame… excellent questions.
    I find in life I go through phases of each of these. When I am on top of things and living full out within my passion that I burn like a flame 24 / 7
    When I find myself just a flicker it is time for some self reflection and looking at where I am spending my time to ignite that flame back.

    Make it a great day!
    God Bless,
    -ed
    Edward´s last blog post ..The Opinions of Others…

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    bethallen Reply:

    I agree Edward ~ I think we all experience times where we flicker and times where we are fully lit up….they key is to do more of the things that keep the fire blazing! That’s great that you take those times for self-reflection, we can discover so much by turning our focus within. 🙂

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  12. I attended a 3-day workshop this summer entitled “Building Wealth Through Relationships.” A few hours into the first day, I realized that I was not really in the right workshop for me. I’m not all about the “building wealth” part; rather I want my life to be filled with meaningful experiences that allow me to learn, grow, and share. That’s the flame that gives me joy and fulfillment.
    Shari Weiss´s last blog post ..New LinkedIn Profile Feature Adds Skills- Publications- and More

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    bethallen Reply:

    Sounds like you know exactly what is right for you ~ and that is a rare and beautiful gift that I think eludes far too many! Thanks for visiting, Shari! 🙂

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  13. Beth,
    Thanks for sharing Kimber’s post. It’s always good to get another person’e perspective on a topic like this. I particularly liked the idea of giving yourself a joy assignment. Making it a priority to do something that reconnects you to joy.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Sure thing, Don! I agree ~ the joy assignments are a must! You and Terri seem to have that part down! 🙂

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  14. Beth
    Nice post, Sometimes my life feels just as that of a candle depending on the situation. And it doesn’t always have to revolve around my work, but life in general. Topics such as these do lift my spirits when they are low, but I have to be the one to take action to get myself from that dampening mood of gloom. I might have to go ahead and check out this friend of yours; Kimber, and see what she is all about. I appreciate you sharing this with all of us, it was a pleasure reading it.

    Steven Dean

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes, we always have to be the one to take action ~ and it always starts with making a choice in each moment. A choice to move forward or a choice to retreat. In each moment, we really are always doing one or the other, whether with our thoughts or actions. Thanks for visiting, Steven. Enjoy meeting Kimber!

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  15. Dr. Erica Goodstone 07. Nov, 2010 at 3:36 am

    Beth,
    I love your new word, “miserymony” as the opposite of testimony, and I love your question, “When was the last time you made a date with joy.” What a wonderful thing to think about, making a date with joy, consciously choosing joy, finding small ways to light your flame.
    Thanks for a great post.
    Erica

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes, Kimber really infused creativity and inspiration into this post ~ the more we make a date with joy the brighter our flame will burn! Thanks for visiting, Erica.

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  16. Hey Beth

    I agree with many of the commenters here.

    I once heard this saying…
    “It’s better to burn out than to fade away”

    Great post – thanks!

    Antonio Licchelli 🙂
    Antonio Licchelli´s last blog post ..Is Your MLM Team Right for You

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    bethallen Reply:

    Absolutely ~ I’ve never heard that’s saying, but fully agree! Thanks for stopping by, Antonio. 🙂

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  17. Thanks for this post. I sure needed this. I have been going through an emotional slump and I need to get my flame reignited. I need a joy assignment. Hmmm. I will get on that right away. Thanks.
    Melodie Kantner´s last blog post ..How to Set Up Friends List on Facebook

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    bethallen Reply:

    So glad you found your way to this post, Melodie! I hope you’ve taken on a joy assignment this weekend and are feeling your flame reigniting already! 🙂

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  18. In life you need to be a flame. You need to keep the fire burning and that comes when you are at peace with yourself and the people around you. Do not only bring joy to people around you but also to yourself. Joy and laughter are food to the soul.

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