Moments that Matter….Living Your Fullest Life!

As I write this final post in my 5 part series based on Jim Rohn’s book The Five Major Pieces to the Life Puzzle, I find myself overflowing with the richness of life.  I’m currently spending a month working from the lake house where I spent all my summers growing up, a half hour outside of Madison, WI.   Of course, being able to do so is one of the unmistakable perks of the life of a network marketer! 😎

And I must say, I absolutely love the beautiful serendipity of life.    I’ve spent the past week surrounded by (in my opinion) the most amazing family in the world.  We have gathered here every 4th of July for 20 years now, sharing laughter and love over memories new and old.  And I must say, the sunsets here are truly spectacular!  This is truly the life!

What’s beautiful is that this post is all about LIFESTYLE, or the final personal quest achieved only when we blend our personal philosophy, attitude, activity and results.  To truly live the life, you must understand that happiness is part of the cause and that wealth is merely an effect. If you are a person who holds the belief that if only you could solve your money problems, THEN you could be happy, well you are missing the bigger picture!

Picked flowers from the garden, delivered with heart, can carry far more value than a delivered bouquet of orchids.  A trip to the symphony is only a few more dollars than a trip to the movies, and you don’t have to own a Picasso to appreciate his genius.  Donating to charity is admirable, but giving of your time and energy to a worthy cause is much more meaningful and rewarding.  Taking your teenage child to their favorite concert will earn far more points than never spending time with them but buying them a new car.  And of course, words of appreciation, a shoulder to cry on and admission to a gorgeous sunset are always free!

“We don’t have to be rich to live richly….It doesn’t take more money to change how we live.  It takes more deliberate thought and a greater appreciation of the real values in life.”

Lifestyle is truly an art form.  It’s about communicating with sophistication, and taking the ordinary and making it extraordinary.  It’s about emotional control in times of challenge and emotional release in times of joy.  It is about experiencing the full range of what life has to offer, and in doing so, truly living life to the fullest!  Lifestyle is not a condition to be pursued, but a skill to be mastered.  It’s about continually bringing MORE to life…..more substance, joy, energy and pleasure into our own lives and the lives of those around us.  The key is, this skill must be acquired while we work on our goals, not once we have accomplished them!

I think so many people think about lifestyle and imagine lounging on a beach, sipping martinis, napping in the hammock and having chauffeurs and servants waiting on them hand and foot.  Sure that’s fun for a week (ok maybe even a few weeks!), but c’mon, can you tell me with any degree of seriousness that you would not go absolutely crazy if this was your daily life?

So if it is not endless fun that we are in pursuit of, then what is this quest toward the “good life” really all about?

“We may all have different opinions of what lifestyle is, but hopefully we will all agree on what it is not: It is NOT something we GET simply as a result of having more.  Lifestyle is a result of LIVING more….living more fully, living more consciously, living more joyfully, living more appreciatively.  The more fully we live, the more we do and the more we become.  Lifestyle is not a reward for all our hard effort, it is a way of making our hard effort more rewarding, more meaningful and ultimately more productive.”

Remember, we are human beings, not human doings! Most people are so caught up in yesterday and tomorrow that they forget to BE wherever they are.  While we are at the office, we are thinking about home, while we are at home, we are thinking about the office.  We are everywhere at any moment except IN the moment!

If we are caught up in going through the motions and are not engaged in the experiences and opportunities that make up our life, then we will never master the art of living well.  We must let life touch us, both the positive and negative, if we are to live a life of substance.

“That is what lifestyle is all about: finding unique ways of transforming emotional possibilities into meaningful experiences that are within our current means.”

The bottom line is, if we wish to be happy and wealthy, then we must study happiness and wealth, so that we can think, feel and act happy and wealthy.  These things simply do not happen by accident.  As I’ve said over and over in this series, the key thing to understand is that what is easy TO DO, is also easy NOT TO DO.  The good life is available to any of us who choose to make it a serious study and practice.

If you are reading this and thinking you have more work cut out for you than you think you can handle, just remember to BE present and take each moment as it comes.  Whatever you do, DO NOT WAIT!

The greatest danger most people face in the pursuit of the good life lies in facing their OWN COMFORT ZONE.  We get comfortable, and become oblivious to the sound of the ticking clock.  If you are waiting until tomorrow to make that call, to start cooking nutritious food for you and your family, to turn off the TV and read a book or to devise a plan to make the change you so desperately need and desire in your life, just remember back to part 1 where we defined Failure:  small errors in judgment, repeated every day….and Success:  a few simple disciplines practiced every day.  The difference is seemingly subtle, yet makes all the difference in the world!

“The problem with waiting until tomorrow is that when it finally arrives, it is called today.  Today is yesterday’s tomorrow. …. Time is the great equalizer of all mankind.  It has taken away the best and the worst of us without regard for either.  Time offers opportunity but demands a sense of urgency.”

Unless you want to look back on your life and say “if only I’d done things differently…”, then there really is no better time than now.  Begin today.

“We cannot keep waiting for a foolproof opportunity to come by before we force ourselves to get serious.  We must identify our current opportunity and embrace it.  We must breathe our talent and our vigor and our new sense of urgency into its existence and discover all that we can do.

We cannot allow ourselves to dwell upon the risks in every opportunity.  Instead, we must seize the opportunity that is inherent in every risk, knowing that we must sometimes run the risk of going too far in order to discover how far we really can go.”

I hope you have found this series to be valuable, and that you have walked away inspired and craving more out of life!  If so, please pass this along to your team, ReTweet to your followers and share with your friends on Facebook.

“May the pieces to your life puzzle come together smoothly, and may you enjoy the picture of that finished masterpiece as a result of your unwaivering commitment to mastering the basics.”

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44 Responses to “Moments that Matter….Living Your Fullest Life!”

  1. Beth:

    I loved this post. I’ll have to go back now and read the others in this series.

    I am so grateful that I live a joyful, peaceful life. It always amazes me when someone tells me what a simple life I live, but I don’t see it that way. I spend my days doing what I love with the people I love. If that means it’s a simple life, I’ll take simple any day.

    Live with passion and purpose,
    Vanessa
    .-= Vanessa´s last blog ..Why You Should Use Social Media Management =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    So glad you loved it, Vanessa. I have enjoyed writing this series so knowing it has been valuable to others has been great. I would also take simple any day ~ a forest, the ocean, my child’s laughter, great friends and family ~ those are the things that make my life full. I look forward to connecting with you more.

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  2. HI Beth,
    This is my first time reading one of your blog posts. I like the way you develop your message.
    I think that living in the moment is hard to do, you are always planning the next event, instead of just sitting and listening and smelling.
    Thanks for sharing,
    rebecca

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Rebecca. Yes, living in the moment takes a lot of practice in making conscious choices and putting attention on our intention on a regular and consistent basis. It definitely takes work, but is ultimately the most rewarding work imaginable.

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  3. Beth,
    This is an awesome post! I can easily visualize your meanings through your words.

    Living in the here and now is so enriching and empowering. You’ve put quite a few great quotes in here. There is no time like the present!

    Thank you Beth,
    Val 🙂
    P.S. You’re less than an hour away now. Maybe we can meet up for a visit. 😉
    .-= Val Wilcox´s last blog ..Renew Your Mindset With Faith =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks so much Val! That is great feedback, and I’m glad you can see it. It isn’t called the “present” for nothing, right?! 😉

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  4. Hi Beth,

    thank you so much for writing this post.

    Awesome!

    Much appreciated!

    Love and Light
    from
    Yorinda

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    bethallen Reply:

    You’re welcome, Yorinda, thanks for stopping by!

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  5. Hi Beth,
    First, I am so excited that you are getting time with your family on a lake and have carried on that tradition for more than 20 years! Every summer I travel to a lake in Maine to be with my family and share a place that I spent every summer of my childhood. These are the moments in time that matter the most and can NEVER be “bought.”

    Here is the quote from your post that really stuck with me:
    “I think so many people think about lifestyle and imagine lounging on a beach, sipping martinis, napping in the hammock and having chauffeurs and servants waiting on them hand and foot. Sure that’s fun for a week (ok maybe even a few weeks!), but c’mon, can you tell me with any degree of seriousness that you would not go absolutely crazy if this was your daily life?”

    I don’t know if it was Robin Leach who started this whole ridiculous obsession with over-the-top luxury, but I’m with you: give me a concert and time with my kids any day over servants waiting on me hand and foot. For a few days, like you said, sure, it would be fun. But I am a DIY kinda woman and frankly, I would be taking over the kitchen pretty fast when all is said and done.

    I have really enjoyed this series you put together and wish you much joy this month as you continue your down time at the lake!

    Mary Lou
    .-= Mary Lou Kayser´s last blog ..Why I Recommend the Association of Better Networkers to All Network Marketers =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Very cool that you have a family home that you all gather as well, Mary Lou. It truly is time that can never be bought!

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  6. Beth,
    I have enjoyed watching this series unfold. You have done an excellent job tying this all together.

    Lifestyle is really all about living in the present. You can be in the worst of times and yet if you are totally present it isn’t as bad as it seems. Getting the life we want takes work as you’ve mentioned. Sometimes the first step is the hardest one to take.

    This is reminding me of something that I’m familiar with and that’s “change your thinking…change you life”. The other thing that is coming up for me is you were mentioning lifestyle and money. How having this picture perfect dream life with all the money to live it can get a little boring after awhile. I’m reading a book as part of a class (yup, at the church) called “It’s Not About The Money”. We’re discovering that it really isn’t about the money. It’s more about how you are showing up in life. Very interesting…
    .-= Don Enck´s last blog ..Is Customer Service A Lost Art =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks so much, Don! Yes, the first step is definitely the hardest to take…..I would say the first several steps. But with consistency, a good rhythm and flow will be set in motion and the goods will be right around the corner. 🙂 I can’t wait to have our chat about your foundation course. Thanks for being a great friend!

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    Jean Reply:

    Good points, Don! There are a lot of people, people who are part of a family, who are so busy throwing money at a “lifestyle” that they cannot be fully present in their family life. They’re too busy making deals and being enslaved to their electronic communication devices to do simple things like sit down at the dinner table with their family. That example comes to mind because I’m a food writer, and I recognize the importance of food in family traditions. I like to encourage people to cook with their children and to sit down at the dinner table with their family everyday.

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  7. Thank you so much for brightening up my day Beth! I am so joyful that you wrote this post. As I was reading, it was difficult to decide which quote I liked best. But I like all of them.
    When people truly understand that it is not about the money, life is rich. Live like you are rich is my motto. That doesn’t mean spending money. Rather, enjoying the Now! Right now, I am sitting on my front porch working and enjoying the birds singing, the sound of the waterfalls nearby, my husband at my side doing his work. I can go on and on, but when I feel like this, I can shout out “I am a Rich Woman!” Money is good, but irrelevant to the nature of things. I could have a billion dollars in the bank, and still have the moment of Now which doesn’t cost anything. O.K. Am I writing a novel? Sorry, but this post has me going. Did you ever read “Rich Woman?” Great book and it reminds me of this.
    blessings
    Donna

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks so much, Donna! I appreciate you sharing your novel ~ I can imagine you and David sitting on your porch with the picture you painted! Haven’t read Rich Woman, but will put it on the list. 🙂

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  8. Thanks Beth

    A very inspirational post.

    So now it is time to get uncomfortable 🙂
    .-= Peter Fuller MBA´s last blog ..Brand yourself online with your own “Nerve” Center =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes, getting uncomfortable is an amazing thing! 🙂 Enjoy. Thanks for stopping by, Peter.

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  9. Hi Beth,

    Believe it or not I too have been doing a Jim Rohn series called the Twelve Pillars. I just realized how long a series of 12 could take and wondered if people will hang with it or not. I guess it’s time to integrate two or more in each post.

    Love your inspiring message (and Jim’s) and like you I too meet with my family every year on the 4th only there are nearly 300 of us now. We take over a campground in VT every 5th year when everyone shows up. So I know first hand what you experience. And I may have to debate over who’s family is more awesome. 🙂

    Great post Beth, thank you for sharing your insights.

    HUGS
    Kellie
    .-= Kellie Frazier´s last blog ..Is The Desire of Your Heart is Great Relationships – Success Pillar Three =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Aww, of course you have an amazing family Kellie! No need to debate ~ I’m always thrilled to hear other people think they have the most awesome family too. That means there are more families connecting in a positive and loving way! I will have to head over and catch up on your series ~ with the way you write, I have a feeling people will happily stick around for a 12 series post! 🙂

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  10. “We are human beings, not human doings”… that’s really a cool thing to live by. Especially for those of us who get so caught up in trying to “accomplish” things.

    The real accomplishment is living your life meaningfully. Not comfortably. Meaningfully.

    I’ve really learned a lot from this post, and from the whole Jim Rohn series. You did a great job delivering it, Beth. Thanks so much!
    .-= David Merrill´s last blog ..Blogging Alliances – Building The Bonds of Tribal Community =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes it is! Meaningfully, not comfortably. So true. Thanks David!

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  11. Hi Beth

    This was such a Joy Inspiring post!! It reminded me of the richness of my life, and what I choose to have more of every day. I remember when I was a very young mother with small children, getting a kiss goodbye at the door from a dear friend one day. She remarked that I looked stressed. I asked how she was, and she said “LIFE IS RICH”. My heart sank and for days as I pondered what that truly meant.
    I called her and asked her what that statement meant to her, and she said that she purposely told me that as a wake up call to remind me that life is a gift, full of richness, and that my little children would only be little for a brief fleeting time. She said that her life was RICH with love, and joy, vibrating at a high frequency of abundance and love.
    I must say I wanted that, and I was far from that place. But I had a model to work towards. This friend gave me a gift that day because she reminded me what was possible, and that it did not take much to recognize, through gratitude, the richness of my sweet children and then husband.
    I went from there and developed my self again, and re-invented a rich life, through looking inside my heart.
    Thank you Beth, your post was wonderful.
    Laura Morris

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thank you for sharing this very inspiring story, Laura. Your friend definitely gave you a beautiful gift that day ~ so happy to hear you took it and ran with it! 🙂

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  12. Beth,

    Thanks for such a great post! I really LOVE the distinction between “being rich” and “living richly” that you make. And it is SO TRUE.

    We have a choice on the quality of life we want to express, regardless of our current circumstance. It’s like that old quote, “I’ve been broke before, but I’ve never been poor.”

    Thanks so much,
    Adam
    .-= Dr. Adam Sheck´s last blog ..Stop Making Excuses For Not Having Sex- =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Sure thing, Adam! Great addition of the quote. That wraps up what this post is all about. Thanks!

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  13. Beth – I love this post! It is such a great lesson for all of us to follow. I love the part that a lot of us are human beings and not human doings! That is so true and something we need to take a look at changing.
    .-= Glyna Humm´s last blog ..Facebook Is Playing Hide -amp Go Seek With Your Friends =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Glyna! I’m right there with ya! 😉

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  14. I’ve come to hate the word “lifestyle,” but YOU use it in an appropriate way! “Lifestyle is not a condition to be pursued, but a skill to be mastered.” You even mention cooking nutritious food. Of course, I’m “all about” food and think the world would be a better place if families would resolve to sit down at the dinner table together every evening. A simple meal, cooked with love and enjoyed together as a family, is far better than any meal you can buy.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Jean ~ I’d be interested to hear why you’ve grown to hate the word “lifestyle” …. and I’m thrilled to hear that you like my interpretation! 🙂 I mention cooking nutritious food because that is a HUGE passion of mine ~ I am studying at the Institute of Integrative Nutrition and LOVING it! I fully agree with you ~ we do need to get families back to the dinner table together. Thanks for your support!

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    Jean at The Delightful Repast Reply:

    More often than not, the word “lifestyle” is used in a context of *having* rather than *being*. You mentioned the saying “we are human beings, not human doings;” I would like to add to that: We are human beings, not human doings OR human HAVINGS. Too often, the word “lifestyle” has to do with things rather than with life.

    I liked your “Lifestyle is not a condition to be pursued, but a skill to be mastered.” Thinking of this in relation to food (since I am a food writer), I am reminded of the people who don’t even cook but who spend $100k on a kitchen remodel! It’s like when I considered buying a very expensive flute. Fortunately, common sense prevailed and I decided it was only practice, not a better flute, that would make me a better player.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks for your reply Jean. I fully agree with what you’re saying and imagined that’s what you meant ~ just nice to hear it from the source. 🙂 And yes, buying fancy stuff will never replace the learning, practice and action necessary to create and accomplish! Thanks!

  15. Hey Beth! I love how you say that we tend to be everywhere but “in the moment”. I think that is so true and life is best lived in the present. What a great post, I am a huge Jim Rohn fan so I am looking forward to checking out this book.
    .-= Angela´s last blog ..A Cool Free Seo Tool For Your Blog Posts and Articles =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Angela! And yes, I highly recommend the book! Enjoy!

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  16. “We don’t have to be rich to live richly….It doesn’t take more money to change how we live. It takes more deliberate thought and a greater appreciation of the real values in life.”
    – Satisfaction is the key towards contentment. Though we tend to seek more than what we have, at least we must not forget to appreciate we presently have. Otherwise, that feeling of being less fortunate might result to emptiness inside.
    Mike Ramsey´s last blog post ..Tips On How To Stop Excessive Sweating

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    bethallen Reply:

    You are absolutely right, Mike! There is nothing wrong with wanting more for ourselves, the problem lies in the fact that most people aren’t satisfied with what they’ve got. Or often aren’t even aware of what they’ve got! Thanks for stopping by and adding your thoughts.

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    Mike Ramsey Reply:

    The technique on that is for us to stop comparing ourselves to other people. I believe that that’s the main reason why we end up dealing with our personal satisfaction in our lives.
    Mike Ramsey´s last blog post ..Tips On How To Stop Excessive Sweating

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes, to truly live life to the fullest, it is necessary to trust in your greatness and all that makes you uniquely you. When we compare ourselves to others, we always set ourselves up for feeling like we’re missing out on something. And we’re not. We each make our own choices and create our own lives. Thanks Mike.

  17. Love the post Beth! Living rich and being rich are definitely two different things and I admire how you compare the two.

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    bethallen Reply:

    I’m so glad you enjoyed the post, and appreciate the comment, John! 🙂

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  18. If there is something I do not like completely it is looking back and saying I wish I did this better or in another way. I used to be like that until I finally decided to take each day as it comes and make the best out of it. These days everything has changed and I am of course very happy with no regrets.

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  19. Live every day on a fresh new start. Don’t be held back by what happened yesterday, the day before, the week before, the year before, and so on. Live life to the fullest.

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  20. I’m so glad that I was able to read your blog Beth. It inspired me in some way.. I’m just too glad.
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  21. I really liked quotations, Beth.You are right, I think most of us live in their past or future and thats why they forget to enjoy their present.
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  22. Excellent read, I just passed this onto a friend who was doing some research on that.
    And he just bought me lunch because I found it for him smile
    Therefore let me rephrase that: Thank you for lunch!
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