The Power of Appreciation

What do you think of when you hear the word Appreciation”?   Some words that come to mind for me are gratitude, recognition, acknowledgment, thanks, praise and love.    And how do you feel when you’re acknowledged and appreciated?  Fabulous, right?

Well let me ask you this ~ on a scale of 0-10, how would you rate yourself in regards to your appreciation of others?    I’d venture to say that we ALL could use some improvement here, be it a little or a lot.  We’re busy, worried that it will sound cheesy, that it will be uncomfortable, or perhaps we’re just too critically focused on what’s not working that we forget the simple power of appreciation.

And the biggest reason of all is that we don’t do it for ourselves!  When was the last time you acknowledged yourself for how magnificent you are?

At a recent networking, I had the pleasure of hearing author, speaker and personal development expert Mike Robbins speak, and was positively captivated by his great energy and excellent storytelling.   Turns out we have mutual friends and sort of dance in the same circles here in the bay area, so it was wonderful to make the connection.  :-)

I enjoyed his content so much, that I walked out of there with his 2 books, Be Yourself – Everyone Else is Already Taken and Focus on the Good Stuff, as well as his CD The Power of Appreciation, which is what inspired this post today.

Mike defines the Power of Appreciation  in 2 steps.  Step 1, is about your attitude or perspective.  It’s about taking an appreciative attitude towards life, other people and ourselves.  It’s about focusing on the good stuff, just like his book says!  And then in Step 2, it’s about your actions.  Doing, saying and acting in ways that are in alignment with that perspective.

It’s about using the power of appreciation to empower and inspire the people all around us, as well as using it on our selves, so we truly recognize what makes us unique and great.  Because it has to start with ourselves!  This is the key ingredient to true success and fulfillment!

Mike shared an example that I found extremely powerful.  He compared this idea to a heartbeat.  When our heart beats, it makes 2 beats one after the other.  With the first beat, the heart pumps blood to itself, and with the second, the heart pumps blood to the rest of the body.  It CANNOT happen the other way around.  And so it is with us!  We can’t give to others what we do not first give to ourselves.

One exercise Mike had us do was to turn to a partner and speak for a minute about things we appreciate about ourselves.  How would celebrating your greatness publicly make you feel?  Well for me and likely many others, it created a mix of feelings from pride and joy to discomfort and embarrassment.  Which makes sense….after all, it’s ingrained into our culture that if we talk about ourselves we’re arrogant and full of ourselves!

But mostly it felt great. ;-)

So how do we go about infusing ourselves and the people around us with appreciation?

Well for starters, we have to expect it!  This one goes for ourselves and others!  As Werner Erhard said, “In every human being there is both garbage and gold – it’s up to us to choose what we pay attention to.” Because after all, whatever we look for is what we usually find!

Are you looking for people to be extraordinary, successful and great?  Or are you expecting people to be rude, dislike you and not fulfill on their promises?  It’s yet another choice that you can make consciously or unconsciously, just remember that your success and fulfillment is what’s on the line!

To really appreciate others, it is going to take courage.  You might be laughed at or you might even have people thinking you have some alterior motive.  Stay focused on what is true for you.  When you are genuine and real in your acknowledgments, you can’t go wrong.  You simply can’t mess up pure intentions.

It’s important to be specific in your appreciations.  Instead of telling someone “you’re wonderful!”, try, “When you did this ______, the impact it had on me was _________.”  This simple tweak makes the world of difference!

Mike shared two exercises on his CD that I want to share with you.

Exercise #1:  Appreciating Others

Make a list of the significant people in your life and list next to each person what you respect, admire and appreciate about them.

1.  How did that process feel?

2. Do those people actually know you feel that way about them?

3. How can you let them know, so that it really lands for them?

4. Now go do this….acknowledge them within the next 48 hours!  Especially those that feel like a stretch!

There are many ways to do this.  If you do it in person, be sure to make eye contact and speak from your heart.  Do not forget to use their name, as that is the sweetest sound a person will ever here.  :-)   You might want to send a heartfelt , handwritten letter.  Yes birthdays and such are great to remember, but what about doing this on a random day for no other reason than to acknowledge the person?  Or perhaps you want to make a video message so they can really see and feel your energy.

The sky’s the limit, just make it authentic and real and amazing things will come from this!

Exercise #2: Appreciating Ourselves:

Make a list as long as possible of the things you appreciate about yourself and the things you are proud of (qualities, talents, successes).

1. How did that process feel?

2.  How big did you play?  Did you truly acknowledge your greatness or did your gremlins get in the way?

3. What did you learn about yourself?

4.  Now go share this list with someone else!! …. And do it with joyfully, because you are amazing!

So what actions can you take to more powerfully appreciate yourself?

First, create a regular practice.  Journal, meditate, or find yourself an ally.  It’s a great idea to have someone close to you who can serve as your support person….the person who will remind you to not beat yourself up….because you are extraordinary! :-)

Second, when someone compliments you…..say thank you and shut up!  Do not feel the need to instantly compliment the person back, and definitely do not deflect the comment with any negative self-talk you may have going on!  Say thank you….and zip it.

Third, create a Sunshine File.  I loved this one!  As cheesy as it sounds, the idea is significant.  Create a file that you keep very close to wherever you spend a lot of time, such as a desk drawer or night table. Put things inside such as cards, letters, quotes, pictures….anything that makes you feel fantastic and reminds you of your greatness!

I make my annual vision boards, but having a file like this on hand, of the things that are not just your dreams and visions but are you actual wonderful reality is such a fantastic idea.   Thanks Mike!

Fourth, ask others for the acknowledgment you want!  Talk about cutting to the chase!  No more feeling bad when your spouse doesn’t recognize your new haircut, outfit or the pounds you’ve shed….celebrate yourself and let them know you how fabulous you feel and they will surely celebrate you as well!

Finally, appreciate others.  The more you give it the more you’ll get it.  And now here we are, we’ve come full circle in the magnificent power of appreciation.

If you’ve enjoyed this post, be sure to share it on the various social sites with your friends and followers.  And be sure to check out Mike Robbins, you will be glad you did!

I’d love to hear from you in the comments below:  What do you appreciate about yourself?  Share one thing….or many!  This is my invitation to you to celebrate your awesomeness!  :-)

In Gratitude,

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67 Responses to “The Power of Appreciation”

  1. Hi Beth,

    Appreciating something forms a conduit to good. It’s like a cycle of goodness: see the good in all things by being grateful and watch how good things travel toward you.

    Grateful people rarely suffer because they’ve trained themselves to see the good in situations and are subsequently prospered.

    The heartbeat analogy is powerful and fitting. Thanks for sharing the comparison and the post :)

    Have a wonderful day!

    Ryan
    Ryan Biddulph´s last blog post ..Ideas Have a Shelf Life

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    bethallen Reply:

    “Grateful people rarely suffer because they’ve trained themselves to see the good”….really well said, Ryan. It does take training and a willingness to slow down which is not always easy in our fast paced society ~ but doing so certainly allows life to flow a whole lot more smoothly. :) Glad you enjoyed the analogy Mike shared and the post.

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  2. Hey Beth…I really love this post. Our perspective of who we are and how we see others truly is near to the core of our ability to appreciate not only ourselves and others but life itself.

    If I were to pick one thing out that I really appreciate about myself it is that I absolutely adore my children…and it shows in their lives.

    This brings up a couple of thoughts for me. One of my greatest joys in life is sharing life with my kids. I could also be happy if I focused primarily on my own stuff…but my life would not be nearly as rich. It is almost counter-intuitive in that by focusing on those close to me I find happiness, joy and an extremely rich life. If I were to only focus on myself…there would certainly be some happiness and times of great elation but I would also certainly miss out on the rich and deep experiences that have life-long implications that can only come from focusing on them.

    Anyhow…I so appreciate you sharing these things Beth!
    Bruce Backman´s last blog post ..Need a Title to Our New Podcast Please Help

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    bethallen Reply:

    I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again (and I’m sure again) :) ~ Bruce, from what I know of your family, you have indeed created something magical. With only 1 3 year old so far, I have ways to go, but you are definitely a model of exemplary parenting in my mind. I completely agree with you that it is through our most cherished relationships that life’s richness is found. Yes there are great benefits to solitary time, but there is nothing like coming together in love and joy. Thank you, Bruce.

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  3. Great post! I always try to say thank you whenever possible. It greatly annoys my husband for some reason, but I do it anyway.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hmmm…..have you ever asked your husband why that annoys him? I noticed you said “for some reason” ~ I know I’d love to find out the reason ~ it could lead to a very eye opening conversation for both of you! :) Glad you enjoyed the post, DeAnna, and thank you for stopping by.

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  4. Beth,
    What an enjoyable post to read! It’s so true that we often appreciate many people in our lives but seldom take the time to let them know. Thank you so much for the reminder…. I’ll be making it a point this week to be sure I do it more often!

    To your continued success,
    Robin
    Robin´s last blog post ..Sell What People Want- Not What They Need

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    bethallen Reply:

    I know, and it’s so sad. I know I’m guilty of it ~ life gets busy and we take things for granted. But those moments where we slow down and genuinely acknowledge the people around us (and ourselves!), nothing else matters. Time stands still and we notice the beauty in the little things. So important ~ as there is so much beauty all around us. Glad you enjoyed this post, Robin ~ have a wonderful week engulfed in the power of appreciation! :)

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  5. Hey Beth – this is an awesome read. One of my weaknesses is having appreciate for myself more so than having appreciation for others.

    I have learned that even if I don’t “gel” with someone that’s ok I have appreciated them making me realise those qualities about someone that don’t gel with me. I think there is a lot to be said for appreciation itself, loved this post!
    cheers
    Nat
    Nat´s last blog post ..How Being A Rebel Gets You Your Desired Results

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    bethallen Reply:

    If I’m understanding what you said ~ I don’t see that as a weakness that you appreciate yourself more than others! Exactly the opposite! As I said in the post, it has to start with ourselves! Sounds like you are doing great with the bigger picture of appreciation ~ appreciating the lessons and gifts in what’s not working is just as powerful as appreciating the good stuff ~ very different, but very important. Thanks Nat!

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  6. Two things I like Beth. One that you might like is a book by Tommy Wyatt and Curtis Lewsky call “Appreciating Marketing” While it was written for the people in SOC, you can apply almost everything they say to your own business. Good Stuff. There thing I got from you is the “Sunshine File” I’ve had a file next to my desk for years that I call “My Encouragement File” It is stuffed with the same things you recommend. I will resist calling it a “Sunshine File” Too girlish for me. Great stuff in this post. I really appreciate you.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes, Nelson, SOC definitely does appreciation marketing well! I’m sure the book is fantastic, I’ll have to check it out. That’s awesome that you’ve had an encouragement file….I’m sure it’s brought much sunshine to your life! ;)

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  7. Beth,
    Great post on appreciation. I am a true believer when it comes to this and self-appreciation is also important, so I’m glad you mentioned it. Appreciation is one of the big exercises I give in couples counseling. Many partners will say they appreciate their partner, yet few VERBALIZE it. As you state, there needs to be an ACTION step included.

    As for my self-appreciation, I am a really great father to my daughter (who as a teenager has become a constant challenge) and I am grateful for the opportunity to support so many people in having better, more passionate lives.

    Adam
    Dr. Adam Sheck´s last blog post ..Relationship Tip- Don’t Talk So Much!

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes, action is essential ~ as with most things. It doesn’t make sense to just talk about it or think about it ~ but to actually get out there and DO it! Thank you for sharing about the great father and counselor you are ~ I have no doubt about that Adam. While we haven’t actually spoken, I feel like I know your character and could trust you with anything. And that’s pretty powerful to feel just from blog posts and comments. :)

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  8. Beth, what a marvelous post! I know I was raised that if I think too much about who I am, what I want, to truly love and care about myself = being selfish. I have had to fight this most of my adult life as I realized this is unhealthy. My parents meant well, it was just the sign of the times. Now I realize, it all begins with me — if I don’t love and respect myself, how can I love and respect others? I am very grateful for the lessons I’ve learned from so many wise, knowledgeable, healthy people. When you start the day with an attitude of gratitude, the dark clouds that were creeping in disappear over the horizon.

    Thank you, very powerful.

    Deborah
    Deborah A. Ten Brink´s last blog post ..“Is Your Blog Boring”

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Deborah! Yes, it is so interesting to see the different generational teachings. I was raised exactly the opposite…..that the bigger we can dream and the more we own our greatness the bigger difference we can make in the world (which is of course, the opposite of selfish!). I am so thrilled you did the work to come to the realization you did ~ sounds like you’ve had so great mentors and you know are paying that forward. That’s awesome. :)

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  9. Hi Beth,

    I do appreciate the way you give detailed tips on how to appreciate.

    We all love to hear well done, but to hear what it is that others think we did well makes it so much more impact full.

    Thank YOU!

    Love and Joy
    from
    Yorinda

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Yorinda. You are absolutely right ~ the more specific you are the more it means ~ it just shows the person REALLY is paying attention. :) Thanks for stopping by!

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  10. You’ve really pulled together some excellent content to continue with a positive mind set. I love the sunshine file idea. Someone else you might enjoy in Jon Gordon, they both seem to have very similar teachings.
    Jeremiah Wean´s last blog post ..USDA Home With A Pool

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    bethallen Reply:

    I love the Sunshine File as well….and have started working on mine and just adding things has been such a joy-filled and beautiful experience! I will definitely check Jon Gordon out, thanks Jeremiah!

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  11. Beth, I was once taught that people will do more for praise and recognition than they ever will do for financial gain. In my own life, the power of appreciation has helped me in my family life and business dealings. People never tire of hearing that we appreciate them and that they’re doing a great job. We should all make the effort to appreciate what we have and the good in others.

    Eddie
    Eddie Espiritu´s last blog post ..Another Network Marketing Success Story

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hmm, that’s interesting. I’ve never heard that ~ I’ll have to ponder that one a bit. :) It sounds like you have very powerfully infused your business and life with appreciation ~ which is fantastic. Thanks so much, Eddie!

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  12. Hi Beth,

    What an insightful post! I immediately noticed a bit of resistance over the idea of sharing my list of self-appreciation with others (due to my upbringing) but it sounds like an interesting experiment to try.

    I too, really like the idea of a Sunshine File. For some time, I’ve collected pictures etc., of things that make me feel happy (e.g. pupppies) but this idea expands that even further. I’ll definitely have to give this a try.

    Thanks for another great post!

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Linnea~ Yes, there are definitely generational and cultural barriers to the way we each express ourselves, and self-appreciation always feels extra challenging. I have been put in many situations where it was part of a course I was taking to do something like this ~ to stretch myself in ways that made me feel so incredibly uncomfortable ~ but the other side is absolutely cathartic and healing. I’d love to hear about it if you give it a try. :)

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  13. Great Post Beth. What great advice and wise words. I try and practice this often. One thing that has been a challenge is taking praise and compliments from others. I have a hard time with that, your right it is because of how we were raised to say thank you but always return comments and many times I will say No that’s not true and there are times I do not believe it. Something to work on. Thanks for the activities to do.

    Love always
    Julie Elliott
    Julie Elliott´s last blog post ..Early Start To New Years Resolution

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Julie ~ Yes, it is something very worthy to work on. I used to never take compliments without deflecting them, and it took me a LONG time to get over that. It still often feels uncomfortable, which I find sad, but I keep working on it. I do often have moments now where I can just soak it in….but it did take a lot of practice and personal development/ self-worth study. :) Enjoy the activities!

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  14. Wow. You have hit the key to seeing the best in ourselves and others. It is so true that in every extraordinary person we find the ordinary. In every ordinary person we find the extraordinary.

    Thank you for the solid suggestions for getting in touch with our value and the good we can do in the world.

    Indeed we each can push things forward when we know who we are. Thanks.
    Teach Jim´s last blog post ..Happiness- Pass it on in Random Acts of Kindness

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    bethallen Reply:

    So true, Jim! When we know our value we can definitely make a much bigger impact in the world. I’m glad I could share some exercises to help people with that process. Thanks for visiting!

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  15. Beth,
    Ahhh, the sweetest words – appreciation. This is such a wonderful topic to write about. I especially love your ideas at the end of sharing your appreciation with others and also appreciating yourself. That one I will admit will be a stretch.

    Thank you for sharing this ray of sunshine today,
    Val ;)
    Val Wilcox´s last blog post ..Paying the Price of the 3 R’s

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Val! I’m glad you found some sunshine here! Remember, the times we stretch are the times we grow the most. This is a very worthy challenge to take on. I’d love to hear about it if you do. :)

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  16. Hi Beth, this is a wonderful article on the power of appreciation. Good to be reminded also, that appreciating ourselves first, is important, just like the heart needs blood pumped to itself first!

    Thanks for the ideas for becoming a more powerful appreciator also.

    Have a fun day! Julieanne
    Julieanne van Zyl´s last blog post ..A Network Marketing Business Scuba Diving and Going Downstream

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    bethallen Reply:

    You’re welcome Julieanne! Yes, isn’t the metaphor of the heart pumping blood a powerful one?! I’m glad you benefited from this post. Have a fun day as well! :)

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  17. Lots of wisdom here, but I especially like this line:
    “In every human being there is both garbage and gold – it’s up to us to choose what we pay attention to.”

    This statement resonates with me because it is so empowering . . . but possibly not exactly in the way you intend, Beth. In Don Miguel Ruiz’s “The Mastery of Love” he talks about how someone else’s words can ruin our whole day. But if we choose to NOT “pay attention” or to take those words personally — but rather “appreciate” where the person is coming from, then we can be compassionate for them and not suffer unwarranted stress ourselves.
    Shari Weiss´s last blog post ..The “Secret” to Online Success — and offline- as well- GIVERS GAIN

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes that is a great quote, isn’t it? Thank you for sharing this perspective, Shari. I haven’t read the book, but agree with what Ruiz is saying. It isn’t the easiest thing to not take things personally, but more often than not, it really isn’t personal! People express their personal suffering in ways that often leave others feeling attacked and definitely not appreciated. When we can step back and not have it be about us, we can find compassion and definitely relieve ourselves of unnecessary ill.

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  18. Hi Beth

    What a great post I love it .

    You are so on the dot we alway’s
    appreciate what others do but not
    what we do,

    So let me say what i appreciate
    about my self :-) . That i am great full
    that i did learn a lot of thing in life
    so that i can help others that go through
    the same problems in life i did and that i can help them now and to give them hope.

    Regards
    Theuns
    Theuns´s last blog post ..Solution5 Review- Five Key Elements To Ensure Your Online Business Success

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    bethallen Reply:

    That’s awesome, Theuns. When we can take what we learn and give back so that others don’t have to endure the same mistakes we did, we are definitely doing great work. Thank you for sharing ~ and keep shining your light!

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  19. Hi Beth,
    WoW !!! Excellent post. I actually read your post twice and can feel my appreciation for you for spending your time sharing this useful and important wisdom with us.

    I always appreciate others but now I should start practising self appreciation. Thanks for waking me up :-) Need to appreciate myself a little more to keep myself going further !

    Thank you, Beth.

    Cheers

    Pearly
    Pearly´s last blog post ..Where Do You Live

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    bethallen Reply:

    Aww, thanks Pearly! I’m so thrilled to hear you enjoyed this post so much. You will definitely find that the more you appreciate yourself, the farther you will soar! Great job appreciating others, and enjoy the journey within. :)

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  20. Hi Beth,
    I’m glad I didn’t miss your great post here on Appreciation. Thank you for sharing what you learned from Mike Robbins. I have read a little of Mike Robbins’ work before and I will now put him up on the reading list. The CD sounds great too. I love this kind of material when I’m driving, or walking the dog or whenever.

    I have heard before that when we acknowledge someone that we need to be specific to really impact them in the way you truly intend. This takes more time and effort so it is hard to do, but once you work to do it each time, it comes easier.
    Dave and Dawn Cook´s last blog post ..LeadNetPro Review – Can LeadNetPro Possibly Solve Your Frustrations With Attraction Marketing and Your Offline Marketing Methods

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Dave & Dawn ~ I’m glad you enjoyed this post on Appreciation. Yes, getting specific does take more time and conscious thought, but not only does it get easier with practice, but the magnitude of difference it makes for the person you’re acknowledging makes it oh-so worth it! Enjoy Mike’s books!

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  21. Now to finish my comment…

    I like the idea of the Sunshine file. I’ll have to get that started asap. It will be a great way to increase my self-appreciation.

    Thanks for writing such a helpful post and giving all the great exercises and ideas to show our appreciation and remember its significance.

    (Dave) and Dawn
    Dave and Dawn Cook´s last blog post ..LeadNetPro Review – Can LeadNetPro Possibly Solve Your Frustrations With Attraction Marketing and Your Offline Marketing Methods

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    bethallen Reply:

    lol ~ I had no idea you weren’t finished with your comment! Enjoy the Sunshine file! :)

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  22. Hi Beth,

    As we enter into the holiday season, this is a great time to reflect on appreciation. So often we get so busy with life that we don’t even take the time to recognize all that we have to appreciate. Or if we do recognize it many of us fail to express our feelings.

    We take so much for granted but should keep in mind that each moment we have to express gratitude to others for who they are might be our last chance.

    Recognizing our own inherent beauty can be an even more difficult job. As we continue to grow in our own understanding of ourselves and our purpose it becomes more and more obvious that we need to have a true appreciation and understanding of the fact that each of us is a unique part of divinity, and that we should celebrate ourselves.

    Thanks for this beautiful reminder, and happiest of holidays to you and your family Beth!

    Kathy J
    Kathy Jodrey´s last blog post ..A New World Economy – Getting Your Piece of The Pie

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Kathy ~ Yes, we do get so busy that we take things for granted. Personally, I find that I do notice the little things, but I often let my busy-ness stop me from acknowledging them. And that’s a shame because none of the stuff I’m busy with is more important than the people in my life (including myself) who I”m ignoring in the process! Thank you for sharing this great comment ~ I’m glad you enjoyed the beauty of this reminder. Happy holidays to you and your family as well, Kathy!

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  23. Beth. This article really hit home. I know for a fact I don’t appreciate myself enough and that in most cases I don’t appreciate those in my life enough. You article offered some great tips for reversing this trend and I am going to pick up the books you referenced as well. The holiday season may remind us to appreciate what we have, but it is during the rest of the year that we really have to work hard to remember all of our blessings. Thanks! Scott Pollov
    Scott Pollov´s last blog post ..Write a Startup Business Plan

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    bethallen Reply:

    Well I’m certainly glad you found your way here this week, Scott! I highly recommend Mike’s books ~ and starting with these exercises. No time like the holidays to take this on! Perhaps if you did some work and read some books before the year ends, you can move into 2011 and the “non-holiday” times filled with an abundance of appreciate for yourself and others. It would surely be a profound enhancement to your life and theirs. :)

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  24. Hi Beth,
    The simplest things can mean so much especially to someone else. I always thank the people I work with and let them know how much I appreciate them. The janitor, the woman cleaning of tables at the mall, as many people as I see to appreciate them. Then they light up like a star almost as if they were dehydrated from appreciation.. it feels good. Wonderful post! :-)

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    bethallen Reply:

    Sounds like you are doing great work appreciating others, Lesly! I hope you are doing as good of a job with appreciating yourself! :) I love the comparison of people lacking acknowledgment to dehydration…..creates a very powerful visual. Thank you!

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  25. Beth, This is great! When we appreciate what’s in our life it creates more. I just had a son I’m so thankful for all my blessing. This is a great post I have to share it with others. Thanks for sharing
    Charles Allen II´s last blog post ..SEO Basic Series 2 Video

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Charles! And yes, appreciation generates more of the great stuff for sure! A HUGE congratulations to you, Charles, on your new son! Truly such a beautiful blessings. :)

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  26. Excellent post and well presented! Now, everyone take note of the exercises and actually DO them, everyday! If we practiced appreciation as much as we habitually do other things we would be so much happier!
    Wendy MacKay´s last blog post ..Secrets to Business Success

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Wendy! You are absolutely right ~ great exercises like this are not just for the reading, they’re for the doing! That is where the life-changing results happen, in the doing. But yes, you have to be doing the right things. :)

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  27. Beth,
    A master class in human relationships. Appreciating one another sometimes comes too late. When something is lost then the gap is identified and we realise what we really had.
    To sit back and look at those people around us and appreciate their contribution enables us to enjoy our lives. My little boy once said to me: the grass is always greener on the other side, but it’s just as hard to cut!
    Lets appreciate what we have, who we share it with and enjoy the great blessings life has to offer us.

    Thanks for the reminder

    Peter
    pete chapman´s last blog post ..Geoff Stephen – Global NPN Founder

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thank you for adding your thoughts with this great comment, Pete. It is often when we’ve lost out that we realize what we had, isn’t it? So sad. Appreciation really does allow us to live in the now, which is a beautiful experience and something that far too many struggle to accomplish. It’s so easy to live in the past or the future, and not even notice all the amazing things in the here and now that bless our lives. Great words from your boy. :)

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  28. Susan Redmon
    Twitter: Susan_Redmon
    10. Dec, 2010 at 3:16 pm

    Hi Beth,

    Thanks for sharing this article. I like the tip about the Sunshine File . . . a nice way to remember what makes us happy and what we’re thankful for.

    Have a great day,
    Susan
    Susan Redmon´s last blog post ..Jim Rohn- Evaluating Your Associations Part II

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    bethallen Reply:

    You’re welcome, Susan. Yes, the Sunshine File is a wonderful idea ~ I’ve got mine going and love it already. :) Thanks for stopping by!

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  29. Simple thank you is showing appreciation
    to others.. great post!
    James E.´s last blog post ..Easy calm Provides effective Cure-

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    bethallen Reply:

    Much appreciated, James! :)

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  30. Hi Beth,

    I love your post.
    Great suggestions for how to appreciate ourselves and others.
    I believe appreciating ourselves is important so we can appreciate others.
    Finding things in everyday to appreciate has helped me to stay/and/or get into a positive frame of mind.

    I do appreciate your post.
    Love and Joy
    Yorinda
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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Yorinda! Yes, if we don’t start with appreciating ourselves, it is almost impossible to authentically appreciate others! I’m glad you benefited from this post, thanks for stopping by!

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  31. It’s a very lovely post, Beth. I wholeheartedly agree with you. When we know truly understand how to appreciate ourselves of course we should know how to appreciate others.
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    bethallen Reply:

    I appreciate that very much, Andrew! ;) It always starts with ourselves.

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  32. Beth,

    I appreciate you posting this one. Really love reading it. Everyone wants to be appreciated and keeping your feeling of appreciation to others is definitely bad. It’s like wrapping a gift and not giving it.

    You’re awesome!

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  33. Tom
    Twitter: juicetom
    02. Oct, 2011 at 1:49 am

    Great post Beth. You’re right, appreciation and gratitude are so important. Thanks for the reminder!

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  34. When you appreciate something you almost always experience some emotion or feeling. These feelings or emotions that you utilize when you appreciate someone will attract more positive things and more positive people into your life.

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  35. Joshua Tilghman
    Twitter: joshuatilghmanj
    29. Jul, 2012 at 9:40 pm

    Great post! As a man thinks in his heart, so is he! As others have already said, what you consciously observe in life brings the same back to you. Having an attitude of gratitude is a good practice that I try to do every morning, as soon as I get out of bed and before a short meditation session. It puts the whole day into proper perspective. Thanks for this post!
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    bethallen Reply:

    It definitely does. Sounds like you’ve got a great practice…something I’ve gotten a bit away from with 2 kiddos, but am working passionately to re-incorporate. :) Thanks for stopping by, Joshua!

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