What Would You Do If You Were Not Afraid???

Has fear every stopped you from achieving a goal?   Or led to missed opportunities or relationships in your life??   Perhaps your fear has led you to undervalue yourself , or worse, even sell out on your dreams.

I have another question for you ~ what would you do if you were NOT afraid?

Because the truth is, your fears are the very things that you need to access and release in order to step in to your divine potential!

And as I’ve often talked about on my blog, it all begins with vision.  It begins with an incredibly rich, compelling and clear vision that will have you moving mountains to see its manifestation.  You need to get down to the very source of that vision, because when you are vague or unclear, you are just leaving the door wide open for your fears and hesitations to fill up the space. Really paint the picture with as much detail as possible, and you will begin to see faith and confidence replacing fear and doubt.

If you are stuck in that fear place, it is likely because you are in your head and not your heart.  Sink deeper.  Breathe into that vision until you can see it, feel it, taste it, hear it, touch it.  Get so in touch with this vision that it truly feels as if it is real, right now.  At this point your heart is probably racing, maybe you have butterflies in your stomach.   Now it is up to you what happens.  Either the energy will get stuck, manifest as fear, and paralyze you, or you will keep breathing and let it flow throughout your body and create electricity, excitement and forward movement.  Just keep quieting the mind, opening the heart and breathing deeply in each moment.

I am a big fan of vision boards, and find this to be a beautiful way to create the kind of abundantly clear and dynamic vision that I’m talking about here.  In, fact, I wrote an entire post about vision boards that you might want to check out here.

Another thing that has always worked really well for me is to have a song that I can play to immediately get myself in that zone of faith and possibility.   That song for me is “I Hope You Dance” by Lee Ann Womack ~ oh my goodness does this song move me!  I have read this to audiences at several points in my life, and find that this is just one of those songs that profoundly touches souls.  I invite you to sit back, turn up your speakers, and really listen to the words…..because what I’m writing about here is this very message!

So are you dancing through life or are you sitting out, consumed by fear, and watching it pass by?

If you are someone who is good at being “busy” and not “productive”, I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that you are likely letting fear rule your days.   You might say (or even might have yourself convinced) that it is something external that is slowing you down (ie. a messy workspace, your children, etc.), but playing that blame game really just enables the fear to stay in play and keep you from producing the results you truly desire.

Living life to the fullest requires taking an honest assessment of your productivity level and identifying the fears that are blocking your movement so that you can blast through them!  Is it a fear of being judged?  Ridiculed?  Questioned?  Rejected?   Whatever it is, make a list ~ give a name to your fear and then release it.  Yes!  Just let it go!  You can do this through visualization, or you might prefer a physical process such as writing it out on paper and having a ceremonial burn.  However you choose to do it, this process is about making peace with yourself, acknowledging that these fears are not serving you, and trusting that you are powerful & unstoppable!

And as long as your belief in your rich, juicy vision is at the level that it should be, there will be no room for the fears to return!  It is like I said in my post last week, faith and fear cannot occupy the same space at the same time!  So stand in complete faith and you will find yourself deflecting any negativity that may come your way, because you are a fierce warrior walking your right and true path!

Also remember that this is a process and requires daily practice.  When you feel the fear beginning to creep back in, remind yourself that in every single moment you can choose to contract or choose to expand.  In fact, if you’ve been around my blog for long, you’ve likely heard me talk about how every single day I make sure that I’m pushing on the edges of my comfort zone, because if I’m not, it starts to shrink in around me until I can barely breathe.

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “life begins at the edge of your comfort zone,” and I believe this is an essential key to understanding success.  If you always stop when you bump up against it, you will never grow, prosper or experience true freedom & fulfillment in life.

I’m not at all saying that I’m fearless, but I have mastered the art of turning my fear into an electricity that propels me. All my life growing up, I was told to “feel the fear and do it anyway,” and that “the only way out is through.”  These words have been mantras of mine, because I know that when the fears win, I lose (and feel miserable in the process!).

So how then do we take that impossible seeming first step?  Well, personally I find that the best way is to have an accountability buddy in my life.  We talk every single day and definitely both inspire and challenge each other to be more in every moment.  And we definitely call each other on our B.S. too! J

We all know that life is short, and I definitely don’t want to look back and wonder where it went.  So when I am up against something that terrifies me, I always remind myself of the amazing moments in my life that would not have happened if I had let my fears define me ~ things like travelling alone for over a year, bungee jumping off a suspension bridge in New Zealand, paragliding over the stunning Swiss Alps, living on a boat for 10 days on the Great Barrier Reef, skydiving 6 times, canyoning down a mountain and sleeping in the open air (with snakes and bugs that I promise you TERRIFIED me!) on a swag in the outback of Australia!

Some might chalk all that up to being an adrenaline junkie, but it translates just as well in my everyday life.  Without that willingness to push WAY beyond what feels comfortable, I can assure you I would never have made it through natural childbirth!   And of course, I would never have gotten past the months of shaking-in-my-boots phone calls and sweaty-palmed presentations that allowed me to reach a leadership level in my company!  And I certainly wouldn’t be tackling technology like I am these past few months since coming online!   It all boils down to faith, and of course a burning desire to squeeze all the juice out of life that I possibly can!

At the end of the day, to be an entrepreneur, there is just plain no room for fear or playing small.  When you act from fear, you surrender your personal power and lose your effectiveness in creating the life you truly desire.   And I know we’re all here to live healthy, prosperous and truly inspired lives, right?! 😉

I will leave you with one of my very favorite quotes, from Marianne Williamson:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

If you enjoyed this post, please Retweet or share it on Facebook.  And knowing that we can learn so much from each other’s stories, I’d love to hear in the comments if there is a fear that you’ve moved through, and what you found on the other side?

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68 Responses to “What Would You Do If You Were Not Afraid???”

  1. Hey Chris ~ I really appreciate your kind words! Nothing better than the rush of spreading your wings….enjoy the flight, it’s a beautiful one! 🙂

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  2. Another stunning post Beth! I love your style. Sometimes I often wonder if people fear success because with success comes change and we all know what change can do to someone.

    I also use songs for inspiration and motivation. “Better Life” by Keith Urban is one of my choices. 🙂

    Thanks Beth!
    Michelle
    .-= Michelle Shutter´s last blog ..Proclaim Your Passion!! =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Oooh, Better Life, another awesome & inspiring song! Thanks, Michelle!

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  3. I think every one of us we has a little guy standing on our shoulder telling us “You can’t do that!”. Usually that guy is pretty strong and was spurned on by conventional thinkers, parents and government aside. As children we are open to daring ideas, dreams, and thoughts because we have never been told, we couldn’t. We eventually grow up and our parents, or our friend’s parents tell us otherwise. This is only then fostered through government school indoctrination. We are taught to conform and follow.

    Thank God for free will. I’m happy you recognized you were above that little guy on your shoulder and got to enjoy and experience those daring and inspirational feats.

    I do believe you will become a very strong leader in whatever you choose because of it.

    Thank you for sharing.
    .-= Chris Kilber´s last blog ..Don’t Stop Believin’ =-.

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    Chris Kilber Reply:

    Pardon typo in first sentence. Edit out the word “we”. Doh…
    .-= Chris Kilber´s last blog ..Don’t Stop Believin’ =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thank you, Chris! And great comments….as a mom of a 2 year old, I think about this often and definitely will do my best to not squash his dreams or make him think he can’t do something. I am among the lucky few who’s parents did nothing but encourage me ~ the little guy on my shoulder has always been self-imposed! Either way, it takes work to be bigger than him (his voice can be LOUD!) ….. but once you do, on the other side is the sweetest sound you’ll ever hear….that of infinite possibility! 🙂

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  4. Thanks Robin, right on!

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  5. Wow Beth this is an amazing post. I wrote a similar post titled ‘The F Word’. I love your boldness and proof that life can be so much more when you do not let fear hold you down. I can really relate to Marianne Williamson’s quote and find the often my fear isn’t failure but of success. Thank you so much for sharing.
    .-= Clifton Hatfield´s last blog ..The F Word =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Glad to hear you resonated with this post, thanks Clifton! Love your post as well!

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  6. Wow Beth.This struck a chord with me.I have let fear control me most of my life.In the past year I have finally conquered it.This post was very good and I am glad I found it.Thanks Beth.
    .-= Beverly Monical´s last blog ..6 Weeks To Better Looking Arms =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes, I too have moved through a lot of fear ~ glad to hear that you have as well, Beverly. 🙂

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  7. Oh, were to start… I guess the first thing that comes to mind is that I would be more forthcoming in introducing myself to females (I’m single). I am deathly afraid of rejection so I practice avoidance, which hasn’t worked out so well. I always tell myself the worst thing that can happen is you get the cold shoulder of they say “No”.
    Charles´s last blog post ..Interviewing An SEO Firm

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks for sharing your experience with how fear has paralyzed you in certain situations, Charles. I think everyone has felt that to a greater or lesser degree. The thing to keep in mind is that every success story exists BECAUSE of the failures that became learning lessons along the way. And so it is with dating…..getting the No’s takes you one step closer to finding the Yes. 🙂

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  8. I think I’m doing pretty well. In the last few years, I remarried started a new business, and moved across the country. I do occasionally have gut wrenching terror over finances, however. Starting a business from scratch is not for sissies! LOL frederick sallaz

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    bethallen Reply:

    Congratulations on stepping out and grabbing a hold of life! You are right, starting a business from scratch is definitely not for the faint of heart, so when you find yourself gripped with that fear, remember this article….and hopefully you found some take-aways that can serve and support you in standing in faith that you will rock it. 🙂 Thanks for visiting, Frederick!

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  9. I would quit my job which is a decent job but not what I really want to do. I would move to a different part of the country but I’m afraid to be myself without the support of my friends. This post have given me food for thought – Ellyn Deuink

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Ellyn ~ do you know what it is that you really want to do? I’m a huge fan of a book called The Passion Test. If you want to get out of your job, then find your passion and begin small. Find a way to start monetizing your passion in whatever time you can commit each week. I also recommend the book Crush It.

    In terms of moving ~ I just moved from San Francisco to Austin, leaving behind an AMAZING community of friends, that quite honestly, I don’t know if I can replace. But I know that being me, and involving myself in my new community in activities and at places that resonate with who I am, I will attract like minded folks and build those new friendships. It’s always up to us! 🙂

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  10. I added guest blogging as part of my link building strategy and at first, i was really hesitant to do it because I’m scared of being rejected. Rejection demotivates me and i don’t like it as it may affect my work. I read this blog somewhere and i was inspired to try it. Much to my surprise, my write up was posted and the blog owner was really grateful and ask if i could do guest post again. I was really happy and since then i’ve been writing guest post. Thanks for sharing

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