What Would You Do If You Were Not Afraid???

Has fear every stopped you from achieving a goal?   Or led to missed opportunities or relationships in your life??   Perhaps your fear has led you to undervalue yourself , or worse, even sell out on your dreams.

I have another question for you ~ what would you do if you were NOT afraid?

Because the truth is, your fears are the very things that you need to access and release in order to step in to your divine potential!

And as I’ve often talked about on my blog, it all begins with vision.  It begins with an incredibly rich, compelling and clear vision that will have you moving mountains to see its manifestation.  You need to get down to the very source of that vision, because when you are vague or unclear, you are just leaving the door wide open for your fears and hesitations to fill up the space. Really paint the picture with as much detail as possible, and you will begin to see faith and confidence replacing fear and doubt.

If you are stuck in that fear place, it is likely because you are in your head and not your heart.  Sink deeper.  Breathe into that vision until you can see it, feel it, taste it, hear it, touch it.  Get so in touch with this vision that it truly feels as if it is real, right now.  At this point your heart is probably racing, maybe you have butterflies in your stomach.   Now it is up to you what happens.  Either the energy will get stuck, manifest as fear, and paralyze you, or you will keep breathing and let it flow throughout your body and create electricity, excitement and forward movement.  Just keep quieting the mind, opening the heart and breathing deeply in each moment.

I am a big fan of vision boards, and find this to be a beautiful way to create the kind of abundantly clear and dynamic vision that I’m talking about here.  In, fact, I wrote an entire post about vision boards that you might want to check out here.

Another thing that has always worked really well for me is to have a song that I can play to immediately get myself in that zone of faith and possibility.   That song for me is “I Hope You Dance” by Lee Ann Womack ~ oh my goodness does this song move me!  I have read this to audiences at several points in my life, and find that this is just one of those songs that profoundly touches souls.  I invite you to sit back, turn up your speakers, and really listen to the words…..because what I’m writing about here is this very message!

So are you dancing through life or are you sitting out, consumed by fear, and watching it pass by?

If you are someone who is good at being “busy” and not “productive”, I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that you are likely letting fear rule your days.   You might say (or even might have yourself convinced) that it is something external that is slowing you down (ie. a messy workspace, your children, etc.), but playing that blame game really just enables the fear to stay in play and keep you from producing the results you truly desire.

Living life to the fullest requires taking an honest assessment of your productivity level and identifying the fears that are blocking your movement so that you can blast through them!  Is it a fear of being judged?  Ridiculed?  Questioned?  Rejected?   Whatever it is, make a list ~ give a name to your fear and then release it.  Yes!  Just let it go!  You can do this through visualization, or you might prefer a physical process such as writing it out on paper and having a ceremonial burn.  However you choose to do it, this process is about making peace with yourself, acknowledging that these fears are not serving you, and trusting that you are powerful & unstoppable!

And as long as your belief in your rich, juicy vision is at the level that it should be, there will be no room for the fears to return!  It is like I said in my post last week, faith and fear cannot occupy the same space at the same time!  So stand in complete faith and you will find yourself deflecting any negativity that may come your way, because you are a fierce warrior walking your right and true path!

Also remember that this is a process and requires daily practice.  When you feel the fear beginning to creep back in, remind yourself that in every single moment you can choose to contract or choose to expand.  In fact, if you’ve been around my blog for long, you’ve likely heard me talk about how every single day I make sure that I’m pushing on the edges of my comfort zone, because if I’m not, it starts to shrink in around me until I can barely breathe.

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “life begins at the edge of your comfort zone,” and I believe this is an essential key to understanding success.  If you always stop when you bump up against it, you will never grow, prosper or experience true freedom & fulfillment in life.

I’m not at all saying that I’m fearless, but I have mastered the art of turning my fear into an electricity that propels me. All my life growing up, I was told to “feel the fear and do it anyway,” and that “the only way out is through.”  These words have been mantras of mine, because I know that when the fears win, I lose (and feel miserable in the process!).

So how then do we take that impossible seeming first step?  Well, personally I find that the best way is to have an accountability buddy in my life.  We talk every single day and definitely both inspire and challenge each other to be more in every moment.  And we definitely call each other on our B.S. too! J

We all know that life is short, and I definitely don’t want to look back and wonder where it went.  So when I am up against something that terrifies me, I always remind myself of the amazing moments in my life that would not have happened if I had let my fears define me ~ things like travelling alone for over a year, bungee jumping off a suspension bridge in New Zealand, paragliding over the stunning Swiss Alps, living on a boat for 10 days on the Great Barrier Reef, skydiving 6 times, canyoning down a mountain and sleeping in the open air (with snakes and bugs that I promise you TERRIFIED me!) on a swag in the outback of Australia!

Some might chalk all that up to being an adrenaline junkie, but it translates just as well in my everyday life.  Without that willingness to push WAY beyond what feels comfortable, I can assure you I would never have made it through natural childbirth!   And of course, I would never have gotten past the months of shaking-in-my-boots phone calls and sweaty-palmed presentations that allowed me to reach a leadership level in my company!  And I certainly wouldn’t be tackling technology like I am these past few months since coming online!   It all boils down to faith, and of course a burning desire to squeeze all the juice out of life that I possibly can!

At the end of the day, to be an entrepreneur, there is just plain no room for fear or playing small.  When you act from fear, you surrender your personal power and lose your effectiveness in creating the life you truly desire.   And I know we’re all here to live healthy, prosperous and truly inspired lives, right?! 😉

I will leave you with one of my very favorite quotes, from Marianne Williamson:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

If you enjoyed this post, please Retweet or share it on Facebook.  And knowing that we can learn so much from each other’s stories, I’d love to hear in the comments if there is a fear that you’ve moved through, and what you found on the other side?

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68 Responses to “What Would You Do If You Were Not Afraid???”

  1. Beth,

    I really loved the practical application you gave for each point. And my favorite part was your statement that “faith and fear cannot occupy the same space at the same time.” That’s a keeper for me.

    It will help me remember how to leave the fear jungle, the next time I’m there.

    Thanks again.
    .-= Debbie Stevens´s last undefined ..If you register your site for free at =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks for stopping by, Debbie! I’m happy to know that you walked away with a keeper that can help you get out of the fear jungle (i like that!). 🙂

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  2. Super Post with a great finish Beth. Not much I fear any more but I could have used your advice 50 years ago. Where were you? But to be totally honest you’ll play Hell getting me to jump off a bridge..

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Nelson ~ yes, isn’t Marianne’s quote so powerful?! Sorry I couldn’t be around there for ya 50 years ago….;)……but hey, I’m here now! And with no fear, why NOT jump off that bridge? 🙂

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  3. Hi Beth,

    You are such a blessing. I love your line, “It all boils down to faith, and of course a burning desire to squeeze all the juice out of life that I possibly can!”

    I have found your words of facing fear to be encouraging and powerful.

    I hope everyone reads this blog and is ready to squeeze…

    {{hugs}}
    Lyn-Dee Eldridge http://www.lyn-dee.com

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    bethallen Reply:

    I’m not surprised that line resonated with you ~ as a rock star woman who I know is squeezing all the juice out of life that she can! Glad you enjoyed it! 🙂

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  4. Hi Beth,

    Great information here! I love this quote, “and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same”.

    We have to believe, we have to visualize … only then will be manifest our dreams into reality.

    I’m also a big believer in vision boards. They help to get the emotions going and the emotions create higher energy that pushes us towards our goals.

    Super stuff!

    Thanks,
    Renee
    .-= Renee Chase´s last blog ..My Boy of Summer – Update =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Renee~ I love what you shared about vision boards ~ they really do tap in to your emotional center and supercharge our energy. Glad you’re a fan! 🙂

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  5. Oh my goodness girlfriend! Look at that incredible list of things you’ve done! What a way to lead by example! Indeed its true that so often what we do is make excuses when in fact we’ve chosen to let the fear win. It’s not until we take responsibility for that choice, until we own it, that we can reclaim it and chose differently. Great post Beth!
    .-= Kimberly Castleberry´s last blog ..Caps Off To Internet Social Memes =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hey Kimberly ~ yes indeed, it is rarely an external circumstance that had us fail (it sure would be nice if it was though, right?!) 🙂 Thanks for your great comments!

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  6. Beth
    Great post – Fear is a terrible thing and a big waste of time when it comes to achieving your goals. Great reminder to think about where you are each day and confront fear head on if it creeps back in.
    .-= Glyna Humm´s last blog ..Internet Marketing and Social Networking – A Match Made in Cyber Space Heaven =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Glyna~ Thanks for your comments. I know that when fear presents itself, if I don’t tackle it head on I end up consumed by it and wasting TONS of time. So true!

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  7. Beth,
    I love that song! It fits great. Stepping out of that fearful zone is something that brings so much to your life. Stand strong!

    Thanks for sharing this,
    Val
    .-= Val Wilcox´s last blog ..Can You Hear Me Now? =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    I’m glad you love that song too, Val. It moves me to tears almost every time I hear it, and also moves me to get over whatever has me in a funk! 🙂 Music is a powerful tool….

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  8. Beth,

    Great post, love the idea of accountability partner.

    Bill
    .-= Bill Hartman´s last blog ..Government Health Care =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hey Bill ~ Yes, accountability buddy’s rock! I highly recommend it!

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  9. Hi Beth,

    Amazing post! I love the concept of vision. Without a vision the people will parish. I have seen this in my own life and now with my awareness open in many of the lives of people around me. I know that we are powerful beyond our own beliefs. We are created in the image of God! It is a true blessing that all we have to do is work in relationship with Him so that he may reveal our His greatness through us. Thanks again for sharing this with us all.
    Make it a great day!
    God Bless,
    -ed

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Edward! Yes indeed, vision is powerful and essential (and so are we!) 🙂 Thanks for your great insights!

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  10. Hey Beth…excellent post!f We’ll have to chat about this a bit more. Perfect Love overcomes fear and that typically involves doing some trusting.

    You are right…that fear can either be paralyzing or energizing and we need to figure out how it is going to play a role in our lives.

    I have found that by walking through the fear…we can harness that power, overcome and learn to walk in Trust.

    I love that you shared some of the cool things you have done…way to go!

    Blessings…
    Bruce
    .-= Bruce Backman´s last blog ..When Love is More than Enough =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    I completely agree, walking in Trust and Perfect Love will always transcend fear! Thanks you for your valuable comments, Bruce!

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  11. Beth:

    A most excellent post on living life!

    So many people are facing their fears, these days and you give help and hope for anyone who reads this wonderful work!

    I quite liked your matching song of hope!

    Well done!
    .-= Dr Linda Douglas´s last blog ..HOW TO HAVE YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND PRODUCE INFINITE RICHES =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Linda, so glad you liked the post (and the song)! 🙂

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  12. Beth!

    I LOVE that song too! 🙂 And it is so true! Like my life coach Tony Robbins say…you have to dance WITH your fear..work with it…and that is how you will excel and enjoy your life at the fullest!

    Thank you for those great words of wisdom!

    Eleni
    .-= Eleni Liapakis´s last undefined ..Response cached until Thu 18 @ 2:30 GMT (Refreshes in 23.91 Hours) =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Right on Eleni ~ dancing with your fears is what it’s all about! 🙂

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  13. Beth. Yes! Yes! Yes! Fear just loves to sneak into your head when you aren’t paying attention. Thank for this gentle and inspiring reminder that we must DANCE with fear rather than run from it. Want to hear some cool stuff? I’ve lived on a boat on the Great Barrier Reef, Bungied all over the world including New Zealand, And gone canyoning in Europe. I see you are a fun spirit and adventurer. I’m liking you more and more every time I take the time to read you stuff. Thanks Beth!

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    bethallen Reply:

    Very cool, Matty! Sounds like we are kindred spirits! I’m so excited that I’ll get to meet you and Eleni in San Diego next week!!!

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  14. Beth,

    One of my biggest breakthoughs ever was going skiing in Colorado when I had never even been in a pair of skis before. I went for 5 days with my best friend in life ( I had a huge crush on him too) and he gave me basic instructions of ” this is how you turn and this is how you stop” now follow me or get left behind.

    Needless to say, I learned to ski in about an hour! On my 3rd day on skis, I skied the highest blue ridge of Arapaho Basin ( A Basin) and had the best freaking experience of my life. It was the most fun I have ever had with my clothes on!

    Thanks for sharing this post!

    Live a Juicy life!

    Susan
    .-= Susan Davis´s last blog ..Success Equals Work and Lots Of It =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Susan, that sounds awesome! Thank you so much for sharing that! And you are hilarious btw….;)

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  15. Hi Beth, what an awesome post! I’m definitely taking some gems away with me from this one. Makes me think of the quote “Do what you fear and fear disappears.” I’ve found some of the greatest opportunities for growth and achievement have been when pushing outside of my comfort zone. Love your mantras …”feel the fear and do it anyway,” and that “the only way out is through.” Thanks for this great share!
    .-= Kara Grabenhorst´s last blog ..What Kind of Ride Are YOU On? =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    I’m so glad you found some great take away gems, Kara!

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  16. Hi Beth,

    What a wonderful post. I too have always tried to have one foot outside my comfort zone and have achieved so much by doing that.

    One part of your post jumped out at me.
    “life begins at the edge of your comfort zone,” and I believe this is an essential key to understanding success.

    I totally agree with you, sometimes I wish I had more legs so I could really test my fear by having all of my feet outside of my comfort zone, but thats ‘the wanting to run before I can walk’ person inside of me.

    Its great to have a vision of your goals and also a vision of the goals you have achieved in order that you can call on them as a pick me up, like this song, (which I have never heard before but is beautiful), like feel good films, happy memories and the like.

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom, you deserve all the success you have in your life.

    Beth xx
    .-= Beth Hewitt´s last blog ..The Simple Life =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Yes, I can tell you are a woman who dances at the edge of her comfort zone. I think that’s why we were instantly attracted to each other. You are definitely one of my greatest inspirations here online! I can so relate to the wanting to run before you walk….but if we’re not careful, we end up tripping, so the walking is important! 😉 Thanks Beth!

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  17. Beth,
    Have you read the book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” by Susan Jeffers? If not, I encourage you to add it to your library!

    I love your energy and passion. Even when writing about Fear, you manage to exude an unstoppable spirit, forging ahead despite any fears that may be inside. This post is such a great reminder to all of us that we CAN push past our fears and get done what we need to get done!

    Love what you are doing…

    ~Mary Lou
    .-= Mary Lou Kayser´s last blog ..Hard Work and The Power of Plastic Shoes =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Mary Lou ~ No, I haven’t read that book….but am adding it to my cue for sure! Thanks! And thanks for your kind words and support!

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  18. I am going to say it a straightforward as possible. This has been one of the most inspiring posts I have ever read.

    I love your outlook on life and the way you tackle your fears.

    Thanks so much for sharing this great post, I am actually going to read it over and over again.

    Thanks again!
    .-= Jose H. Caraballo´s last blog ..How I Tame the Tribe Syndication “Monster” with Google Reader! =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Jose ~ you are too kind! Thank you so much. I’m thrilled to hear that this post touched you so much. 🙂

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  19. Hey Beth: Marianne Williamson quote really sums up what your message is about. What a leader. Smile and the whole world smiles back. Light up the world.

    Aloha,

    Arlan
    .-= Arlan Murata´s last blog ..Thoughts =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Arlan! Smile and the world smiles back ~ I couldn’t agree more!

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  20. What you wrote really struck a chord with me. I’ve been working through my fears for the last 18 months. I just got so tired of being frightened. I got started with Susan Jeffers’ classic, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. Along this journey, I’ve found a lot of support from that book and others and especially from the example of people like you. Thanks so much for putting yourself out there. Plus, really good song!

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    bethallen Reply:

    Way to go on choosing to face your fears and move through them, Karrie! What you said is so important ~ that you were “tired” of being frightened. It really is exhausting to not live with passion and reaching for our fullest potential! It takes work, but it gets easier and easier, and eventually is just pure joy!

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  21. Hi Beth,
    such a great post,
    fear is such a big barrier to us all if we let it win.
    It hits a nerve with me as I still battle wit some fears which holds me back.I also loved the song.
    .-= jean´s last blog ..‘Showing Gratitude and Appreciation’ =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Jean ~ if the post hit a nerve, well you know what to do! 😉 Glad you loved the song ~ it’s a powerful one, at least for me!

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  22. Beth,

    That is one of my favorite quotes too! I love that you touched on such a powerful subject, our fears, and how we can blast through them 🙂

    Take care,

    Becca

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    bethallen Reply:

    Hi Becca ~ Yes, this is a powerful subject ~ I think fear probably stops people more than anything. And it’s usually imagined ~ False Evidence Appearing Real (FEAR)!

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  23. I think it is important to have conviction in our hearts and to learn to act on faith. These things that we accomplish through fear or anxiety only gives us more strength. You are insanely inspiring! I love it!
    .-= Robin Lynn Brooks´s last blog ..First Colors of Spring Planning My Garden =-.

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  24. Hey Beth, There’s not much to say that hasn’t already been said by your readers! I love that Marianne Williamson quote – it’s one of my very favorites – it really moves me. I think it’s so important to remember and realize we all feel fear, to differing degrees in different situations.

    Part of what makes people successful is pushing through the fear. You grow when you do that and you don’t go backwards. That growth is real and permanent and expansive. You’re right, life is short, when we get those visceral reminders – through illness, or death we tend to ‘get it’ and use it to grow and push through our fears.

    I’m all for more living full out and I work every day to push myself to NOT be afraid and to go for it – it’s what we’re here for…. Thanks for your great wisdom and insight….Amy

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thank you, Amy. Yes, the growth you have when you push through fears to get to is very real, permanent and expansive. Here’s to living full out! 🙂

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  25. RAAAAAHHH empowering quote at the end, Beth. Time to move me some mountains!!!

    Uplifting post, thanks for that Beth!

    Garrett
    .-= Garrett Miller´s last blog ..Blogging Takes Time =-.

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    bethallen Reply:

    Thanks Garrett! Glad you’re on board with movin’ mountains! See you at the top! 😉

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  26. Hey Beth… Beautiful blog!

    …and OMG was that ever a POWERFUL piece that you just wrote !

    I think you covered everything that someone (like me :>) ) could use not to spread our wings. Thanks for the RUSH of exhilaration I felt – both from your space here, and your writing!

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